Sexual Rights Agenda: Confuse the Masses

Featured

by Mary McLellan and Robert Swain

Sexual Rights Advocates claim victory for the lowest teen birth rates in decades. But, why are the rates at an all-time low? Is it really due to “safe sex” education in the schools and the push to get all girls on birth control?

Or, are teens making better decisions and refusing to engage in sex, so that they can focus on their future?

It is laughable that Sexual Rights Advocates claim responsibility for the majority of teens delaying sex! Their programs do not teach Sexual Risk Avoidance (SRA) skills to abstain from sex. In fact, most of their sex programs teach Sexual Risk Reduction (SRR) skills to “avoid unprotected sex” and “to enjoy the pleasures of “safe sex.”

How can teens focus on their future in such a sexually charged climate?

The goal of the Sexual Rights Agenda is to confuse the uninformed public. They do this by masking the content of most sex programs, keeping the media hype going, and demanding that hundreds of millions of taxpayer dollars continue to flow in their direction.

It is true that teen pregnancy and birth rates are at their lowest in decades. Yet, the Sex Cartels demand that “more taxpayer money is needed, state laws must be changed, and more must be done, because one unplanned pregnancy is just too many.”

This false narrative convinces school districts and legislators that only SRR (“safe sex”) programs will work, because “all teens will have sex.” These programs are pushed by the Sex Cartels, including Planned Parenthood, SIECUS, LGBTQ, Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, Advocates for Youth, and the CDC.

However, if one really looks at the data a different narrative emerges. In South Carolina (SC), SRR advocates receive millions in taxpayer dollars annually to expand into more and more schools. And, they claim that they are responsible for the dramatic 68% decrease in pregnancy rates for teens (15-17) and 80% decrease for adolescents (10-14). (SC DHEC 2015)

This decline is not a phenomenon, but consistent with national trends. Plus, the CDC’s YRBS (Youth Risk Behavior Survey) for SC reveals that for almost 20-years, most sexually experienced teens have NOT used contraception. They are not practicing “safe-sex.” There has been a:

  •  26% increase (2005-2013) in teens who did not use a condom during last sexual intercourse.
  • 83% of girls did not use birth control pills to prevent pregnancy before last sexual intercourse. (UNCHANGED since 1995)
  • 97% of girls did not use an IUD before last sexual intercourse.

The SC YRBS also reveals that only 32% of high school teens were sexually active at the time of the survey. In addition, there was a:

  • 28% decrease in high school teens who have EVER had sex. (1995-2013)
  • 49% decrease in 9th grade teens who have EVER had sex. (1995-2013)
  • 30% decrease in high school teens who are sexually active. (1995-2013)

In other words, over the past 18 years:

  • Sexually active SC high school teens have not been practicing “safe-sex.” (SRR education has failed in SC for decades and  they don’t want you to know it!)
  • The majority of SC high school teens were not having sex and/or have NEVER had sex!
  • The percentage of sexually experienced high school teens has decreased steadily since 1995.

Most SC students are not duped by the “all teens are having sex, so you better protect yourself” mantras that are chanted in sex classes. Rather, smart teens embrace the SRA (abstinence) messages promoted by their parents, churches, and agencies that teach Evidence-based Abstinence Education.

Teens will live up to high standards! So, we should set high standards for them and for ourselves.

Such progress bodes well for SC, but only if the current trend continues. SRA (abstinence) should be taught as a separate component for all school age children. To omit this vital perspective from schools is censorship.

 

“Safe Sex” education sets our kids up for failure and it defeats the purpose of quality education.

 

 

Charleston, SC: Bogus CRISIS! in Teen Pregnancy

Featured

don-t-believe-the-hype-t-shirts_design

Sexual Rights Advocates claim the victory for the lowest teen pregnancy rates in decades. They even claim responsibility for the majority of teens choosing to abstain from sex, yet none of their programs promote sexual abstinence or teach the skills to do so.

In order to keep the media hype going and millions of taxpayer dollars flowing in their direction, these teen sex advocates must claim victory where there is none. They use these bogus claims to convince school districts that all teens will have sex so that they will adopt their Planned Parenthood Sex Programs, exclusively, for middle and high school students.

Teen pregnancy rates have been trending downward for well over two decades. In SC, abstinence-until-marriage education was first funded in 1996 under Welfare Reform. Until then, condoms-only programs were the norm, resulting in skyrocketing teen pregnancy rates. Since 1996, pregnancy rates for teens (15-17) and adolescents (10-14) have dramatically decreased by 60% and 80%, respectively.

SC 15-17 Preg Rate

SC 10-14 Preg Rate

Heritage Keepers® is the predominant Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education program used in South Carolina schools over the past two decades. It is the only abstinence-until-marriage program in the nation listed by U.S. HHS as an Evidence-Based Teen Pregnancy Prevention Program.(2012) This list of 35 programs is used by school districts to select sex education programs for their students. 

Independent evaluation of Heritage Keepers® in SC public schools reveals that a year after the program, Heritage Keepers® students initiated sexual activity at a rate that is 67% lower than non-program students.

This evaluation included 2,215 sexually experienced and inexperienced students in 7th, 8th, and 9th grade, with 63% of the students African-American.

Heritage Keepers® was shown to be effective across age, gender, and race.

These are amazing behavioral outcomes in the science of teen pregnancy prevention.

In Charleston County, Heritage Keepers® is the only Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education program approved for the public schools, while “safe sex” condom programs are also on the list. When Heritage Keepers® Certified Educators arrive on campus, the sexual climate of the entire school changes. 

Students choosing to abstain feel validated, and those contemplating a return to abstinence are empowered to follow through on their goals.

Pregnancy rates in Charleston have declined even more dramatically than the state, with pregnancy rates for teens (15-17) and adolescents (10-14) decreasing by 72% and 90%, respectively.

Charleston 15-17 Preg Rate

 

Charleston 10-14 Preg Rate

 

 

 

So, is contraception use driving down pregnancy rates? Not according to the most recent CDC Youth Risk Behavior Survey (YRBS) for SC released in 2014.

According to the YRBS, only 32% of SC high school teens were currently sexually active at the time of the survey. That means that almost 70% of high school teens in SC were not having sex! Who knew?

The survey also showed that there was a:

  • 26% increase (2005-2013) in teens who DID NOT USE a condom during last sexual intercourse.
  • 80% of girls DID NOT USE birth control pills to prevent pregnancy before last sexual intercourse. (UNCHANGED since 1995), and
  • 95% of girls DID NOT USE an IUD before last sexual intercourse.

The YRBS further reveals that between 1995 and 2013 more teens abstained from sexual activity. There was a:

  • 28% decrease in high school teens who have EVER had sex.
  • 49% decrease in 9th grade teens who have EVER had sex.
  • 46% decrease in 4 or more life time partners.
  • 30% decrease in high school teens who are sexually active.

Clearly, contraception is not the only reason that pregnancy rates have decreased, since their use has flat lined. The facts show that sexually active teens are not increasing contraception use! And, more teens are abstaining from sex.

Since “safe sex” condom programs used in SC do not teach teens how to abstain from sexual activity or teach about the benefits of abstinence and marriage, how can they take credit for any increases in abstinent behaviors?

They can’t, but they do!

The complicit media will not report the good news from the YRBS, because it does not fit the Sexual Rights narrative. They continue the drum beat demanding that abstinence-until-marriage education programs have failed and must be kicked out of schools in favor of Planned Parenthood Sex Programs.

Don’t believe the hype about a teen pregnancy crisis in need of the Planned Parenthood solution.

It is only a distraction to hide the Sexual Rights Agenda, which has nothing to do with health. It has everything to do with recruiting adolescents and teens into a sexual lifestyle that benefits their business model.

It’s all about the money.

 

 

 

Charleston Parents Outraged: Making Proud Choices!

AAmind-in-the-gutterWhile children are out of school and many families are away this summer, the Sexual Rights Agenda presses on to advance yet another sex program for approval in our schools. This time, it is Making Proud Choices! which we have covered many times.

Last week, a public hearing was held by the Charleston County School Board to discuss and vote on the adoption of Making Proud Choices! sex education program. Local and state SexPerts packed the room to support their program. These SexPerts included PhDs from Medical University – Department of Psychiatry, Planned Parenthood, New Morning Foundation, ACLU, and other advocates of Sexual Rights indoctrination in public schools.

Only 1-minute speeches were allowed. The SexPerts spouted typical Planned Parenthood/Sexual Rights talking points, revealing that many had never seen the curriculum in question. They accused protestors of “having their heads in the sand” or “living in a bubble,” while they are the ones living in their ivory towers with their minds in the gutter! They claimed that the program teaches abstinence without revealing that abstinence to them has no timeframe and is nothing more than “avoiding unprotected sex.”

The protestors of Making Proud Choices!, many of whom had spent days researching and reviewing the curriculum, voiced factual opposition based on obscene content, violation of SC Law and common decency standards, and a gross lack of any real prevention education. Most of these protestors actually work in the trenches with real people suffering the consequences of our sexualized culture. They have done their homework.

Ironically, the proponents in the school district used the term “Reproductive Health Education,” instead of the oft criticized term “Comprehensive” or “Sex Education.” Ironic because Making Proud Choices! is void of any education about “Reproduction.” Shouldn’t that be basic?  

“Reproductive Health Education” is about Rights, not Reproduction!

Making Proud Choices! does not teach students the skills to avoid sexual activity, nor does it teach them how to form a future healthy family within marriage. The content and activities clearly intend to encourage and normalize sex among and with minors.

We know that kids are targeted every day with porn on the streets and through media, internet, and smart phones. Why do the SexPerts want to reinforce the exploitation and saturate kids’ minds with even more sex in schools? Schools should be a safe zone for academics, not sexual indoctrination. 

These Sexual Rights Advocates cannot seem to get their “minds out of the gutter” as they create future customers for lucrative sex industries.

Thankfully, the Trustees decided to postpone a vote until the next meeting on Tuesday, August 4th at 9 AM at the School District. They had not seen the curriculum either! They requested a final version with all edits and adaptations. We will see if that happens.

Decent citizens of Charleston County need to speak out against Making Proud Choices!, which is targeting 11-14 year old minor children for a Medical University Psychiatry research project.

Email the Charleston County School Trustees and tell them to VOTE NO! to Making Proud Choices!

Go to the meeting on Tuesday, August 4th to protest this porno-graphic program.

Read all of the coverage on Making Proud Choices!

Charleston, SC: Explicit Sex Program on Agenda

Making Proud Choices pictureDo you think your voice matters? Sometimes it doesn’t. After a dozen parents in Charleston County School District testified against Making Proud Choices!, with no one signed-up to speak in favor of it, the Health Advisory Committee (HAC) voted unanimously to send it forward to the Strategic Education Committee (SEC). The HAC did not listen. Their minds were made up, and they like to keep meetings to one-hour.

The SEC meets on Tuesday, July 7 at 9 AM.

However, sometimes your voice does matter, a lot! A similar effort failed in 2013 when one parent asked the 3-Trustees on the SEC to open and read just a few pages of the MPC! curriculum. This happened after the room full of proponents had spoken and assured the SEC that this programs was Evidence-based and essential for Charleston’s children. The Trustees were so stunned and surprised by the pornographic nature of the lessons that they voted to table it immediately.

Now, Making Proud Choices! is back on the agenda.

One parent made the difference two years ago. This time we need many more voices!

The HAC assured us at the last meeting that explicit sexual language and other issues have been edited. Are they admitting that MPC! contains porn? Who edited it? What is their expertise? If their background and bias is in condoms-only, risk reduction sex education, then they are not qualified to evaluate a program for abstinence content. Are we going to let them practice on our children with an unproven sex program?

School districts across the US often claim that curricula will be “edited” to conform with community standards. They will say and do anything to get the grant money promised by the Planned Parenthood Network.

After our team reviewed the so-called edits to MPC!, nothing about our position changed. We had not cherry-pick our objections from the curriculum. We used page numbers and quotes as concrete examples of the underlying problems with this sex program. The assumptions are made that “all kids will have sex” and “there’s nothing we can do to stop them” and “we just have to teach them how to have sex safely.”

MPC! and “Safe Sex” programs are an asinine approach to educating minors about sexual health. Sensible adults and authorities talk to kids about avoiding drugs, tobacco, alcohol, and gangs. And, laws that protect and restrict kids from using these products and participating in dangerous activities are enforced. Yet, when it involves preventing sexual activity and the exploitation of minors, those laws and sensibilities disappear.

It’s as if promoting “safe sex” has become the primary focus of the

Department of Education!

Every teen, regardless of sexual history or sexual orientationdeserves to be taught, and reminded often, about the benefits of abstinence and marriage. People seek to change their behaviors every day. They do this with eating habits, drugs, tobacco, alcohol and their peer groups. Sex programs like MPC! are kin to giving an addict a steady supply of the very substance they are trying to avoid.

Many sexually active teens and adults decide to return to abstinence and wait for life-long commitment, rather than settle for short-term uncommitted relationships. We should do everything we can to promote this kind of mature behavior.

 “Cleaning up” pornographic sex ed is like putting lipstick on a pig. It’s still a pig! 

Contact the Charleston County School Trustees and tell them to Vote NO! against Making Proud Choices!

PS: See what happened at a School Board Meeting in Florida! This is so typical!

Now, what will you do? We must stand up. If we don’t, it’s on us.

If we do, it’s on them. 

 

Charleston, SC: Letter Exposing Sex Program Censored!

 censorshipThe Charleston Post and Courier only printed parts of a letter submitted about a recent sex ed meeting where Making Proud Choices! was recommended for the public schools.

See below. The RED is the texts that was censored!

June 2 2015

Last week, [May 21st] the Health Advisory Committee (HAC) for Charleston County School District voted unanimously (9 present out of 13) to recommend Making Proud Choices!, a Safer-Sex program for 11-13 year old middle school minors. This program is promoted and funded by Sexual Rights agencies on the federal and state level.  Abstinence is presented to children as equal to “avoiding unprotected sex.”

A similar action failed 2 years ago when Trustees on the Strategic Education Committee actually read some of the sexually explicit and titillating pages in the curriculum.

However, it made no difference to the HAC that a dozen parents, grandparents, medical and education professionals testified against Making Proud Choices! It made no difference that this program violates SC Law by emphasizing sexual activities, rather than abstinence until marriage. Their main concern was getting out within an hour!

The HAC Chair commented that teens from married families might not need Making Proud Choices!, but teens from single parent, urban families certainly need it. That smacks of profiling, discrimination, and bigotry! Low income African American, Hispanic, and white teens from single parent families deserve to learn the same optimal sexual health message – Abstinence-Until-Marriage – as those teens from married families. No wonder there is a caste system in our culture; the marrieds vs. the unmarrieds.

It is preposterous that the HAC is actually targeting specific groups of children in Charleston to receive sexually explicit condoms-only instruction. Are they also told that they cannot take AP classes or the SAT?  

Making Proud Choices! is a failed condom advocacy program that teaches minors how to have “fun and pleasurable,” “erotic” and “worry free” sex with condoms. Evaluations conducted in 1998, 2010, and 2015 showed “no effect” on condom use by the end of the program and even made things worse!

Just last month, a report on a 3-year project in Texas revealed that more of the 8th grade Making Proud Choices! students had sex for the first time, had sex within 3 months after the program, had unprotected sex, and were less likely to consistently use condoms compared to students taking a regular health program. The Making Proud Choices! students scored higher on knowledge, but were less confident that they could Say NO! to sex. (http://tinyurl.com/nh7vzhd)

Making Proud Choices! will be considered again soon by the Strategic Education Committee consisting of Trustees Chris Collins, Kate Darby and Chris Staubes. Making Proud Choices! needs to be stopped again, because all of our children deserve better than failed sex programs.

[End]

 So, the truth is once again censored. This is why we must get the word out through social media. There is no Freedom of the Press and protecting children is not on their agenda.

Update: Making “Poor” Choices! Charleston, SC

Making Proud Choices pictureMaking Proud Choices! (MPC!) passed the so-called Health Advisory Committee (HAC) last week and is now on the fast-track for approval from the Charleston County School District. Even after a dozen citizens testified against MPC!, and no one spoke in favor of it, the HAC voted unanimously to send it to the Strategic Education Committee (SEC) which meets Tuesday, June 2 at 9 AM.

A similar effort failed in 2013 when 3-Trustees on the SEC were asked to read just a few pages of content and were so alarmed by the pornographic nature of the lessons that they voted to table it immediately.

The HAC assured us that the pornographic language and other issues have been edited. However, after reviewing their edits, it changes nothing about our objections to this Condoms-Only Sex Program.

Within days of the HAC decision, it was reported that a Communities In Schools representative pressured a middle school principal to use the unapproved MPC!

What’s up with that?

What is Making Proud Choices!?

It is a condoms-only sex program used in some SC counties targeting minors (11-13), who cannot legally consent to sex. MPC! is listed on websites of the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education, including Planned Parenthood, Advocates for Youth, and SIECUS. All of these entities authored or support the National Sexuality Education Standards, the “Common Core” for Sexual Rights Education. The infrastructure for Common Core will act as a conduit for the National Sexuality Education Standards. (See previous post about MPC!)

An April 2015 report on MPC! was presented at The Texas Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy conference just a few weeks ago. Planned Parenthood of Greater Texas taught MPC! targeting African American and Hispanic children in 8th and 9th grade, while a control group was taught a regular health program.

By the end of the 3-year project, more of the MPC! 8th grade students:

  • Had sex for the first time
  • Had sex within 3 months after the program
  • Had unprotected sex, and
  • Were less likely to consistently use condoms…compared to the control students.

MPC! students scored higher on knowledge, but they were less confident that they could say no, to having sex.

Our protest is not about whether contraception should be taught in schools. It is about how and when contraception should be taught.

There is no assurance that any HAC edits or “improvements” will be implemented since the final version of the curriculum has not been made public. And, if significant changes are made, then it should be sent back for medical accuracy approval and evaluations by an independent agency.

As it stands, MPC!:

  • Goes far beyond the scope of law to teach minors sexual foreplay techniques, and how to have fun, pleasurable, erotic sex with condoms, under the guise of STD/HIV prevention.
  • Teaches minors that abstinence is the same as “avoiding unprotected sex.”
  • Violates SC Law by not emphasizing abstinence from sexual activity until marriage. The message is clearly to have sex whenever you “feel” ready. Like Friday night?
  • Targets 11-13 year old legal minors which should automatically deem it inappropriate. (Twelve is the average age for porn addiction and sex trafficking.)

The adolescent brain is not mature until about age 25. MPC! and other similar programs groom and exploit minors to engage in sexual activities right at the time when their brains are rapidly developing neural pathways and are most vulnerable to sexual influences.

With twenty-five percent of youth sexually abused by the time they are 18, the probability of sexually exploited children sitting in these classes is high. What are they to think and feel when they hear a trusted teacher tell them that sexual activity is normal and safe for children their age?

Making Proud Choices! is a poor and harmful choice for our children. Charleston’s youth deserve better!

Contact the Charleston County School Trustees and tell them to

Vote NO! against Making Proud Choices!

 

Charleston, SC: Making PORN Choices?

Making Proud Choices pictureMaking Proud Choices! (MPC) is on the fast-track by the so-called Health Advisory Committee (HAC) to get Charleston County School District approval. A similar effort failed in 2013 when School Board Trustees were asked to read just a few pages of content and were so alarmed that they voted to table it immediately.

Now they are back. Who are they?

The HAC includes several Sexual Rights Advocates linked to local, state and national Planned Parenthood organizations, New Morning Foundation/TellThemSC, Advocates for Youth, SC Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, ACLU, and others aligned with the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education.

While they claim to support the SC Comprehensive Health Education Act (SC Law), they work behind the scenes to gut it of all intent and to promote their Sexual Rights agenda. By promoting undefined and ambiguous ideas such as “medically accurate information,” and “age appropriate” content, they subvert SC Law by redefining abstinence to mean “avoiding unprotected sex,” omit teaching about marriage, and instruct students as young as 11 in how to “safely” perform “fun and pleasurable” sexual foreplay, and oral, anal, and vaginal intercourse.

They groom and exploit minors to engage in sexual activities just at the time when their brains are rapidly developing neural pathways and are most vulnerable to sexual influences.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, pornography is defined as “printed or visual material containing explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity intended to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feelings.” After reading some of the content of MPC, where minors are instructed in how to “eroticize” condom use, it is obvious that this curriculum includes pornographic material.

 Any adult saying these same things to a neighbor’s adolescent child would be arrested for exploiting a minor.

What is Making Proud Choices!?

It is a sex education curriculum for minors (11-13), who cannot legally consent to sex. It is listed on websites represented by the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education.

Evaluation Results: MPC was evaluated as a Saturday program, not in a school setting. Like most similar sex programs, MPC targets low-income, inner-city, African American minors. The mean age was 11.8 years. In some areas of the country, students are paid $100 to take the Saturday classes.

  • Three months after the program, condom use at last sex increased. Students were less likely to have unprotected sexual intercourse.
  • There were no program impacts for virgins at any point during the study.
  • By the end of the study, there were no statistically significant program impacts on overall rates of sexual intercourse or frequency of sexual intercourse.
  • There was no delay of sex. The program did not increase abstinence.

General Information: While MPC never claims to be abstinence education, it is marketed by Sexual Rights Advocates to school districts as an abstinence-based program. The cover page for MPC states that it is a “Safer-Sex Approach to Teen Pregnancy, STDs & HIV.” MPC redefines abstinence to mean “avoiding unprotected sex” or “avoiding unsafe sex” and then repeats the term “abstinence” hundreds of times throughout the curriculum.

Following are direct quotes from MPC Facilitator Manual.

PAGE: (4.1 Edition 2012)

Pg. 60 “Therefore, it is important to avoid these consequences and practice abstinence or at least safer sex.”

Pg. 70 Abstinence is redefined to mean abstaining from unsafe sex: Attitude Statements: “Condoms can be fun and pleasurable if you know the skills to make them that way.” “Girls who carry condoms are smart, responsible, proud, and safe.” “Refusing unsafe sex is the proud responsible thing to do.”

Pg. 85 “Sex can still feel great with condoms. You can make sex fun by using condoms. We’ll learn this later on today.” “It is important that everyone learn how to use condoms correctly.” “Knowing your sexual partner very well does not mean you are safe. You need to use condoms; then you do not have to worry.”

Pg. 87 Kiddie condoms for little penises: #4 “Brainstorm brands and types of condoms…Trojan, Lifestyle, Easy Rider, Rough Rider, flavored, ribbed, ticklers, HotShot (specifically designed for younger teens.)”

Pg. 92 “To protect yourself and your partner from sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV infection, you should: Keep a supply of condoms on hand. Get used to condoms, so they are natural and fun…..Refrain from using alcohol or other drugs because they affect your judgement.” “Condoms make sense. Condoms help protect both partners from pregnancy and STDs, including HIV. However, you must use them correctly every time you have vaginal, oral, or anal intercourse.” 11-13 year old students are not told to avoid sex, but how to engage in it “safely.”

Pg. 98 “Now you know the basics about HIV infection. These are the facts that can help you make proud choices so you can reach your goals in life.” Emotional and neurological consequences of sex are not considered.

Pg. 108 Risk Behaviors: These behaviors are listed as Green, Yellow, and Red Light. Condom use is the goal, not abstinence from all sexual activity. Rather than teaching minors how to avoid risks, they are teaching minors what they can get away with sexually.As long as condoms are used, the following behaviors are discussed as Yellow Light risks: “Having sex with a person who is having sex with others, oral sex on a guy without a condom, mutual masturbation, and vaginal sex, oral sex on a girl using a dental dam, having sex with multiple partners and using condoms, having monogamous sex.”

Pg. 149. Teaching girls how to sexually service boys/partners: “Facilitator Note: Relaxation can wander throughout the whole process to show that relaxation should be a continuous part of the process. Loss of erection can also happen at any time throughout the process.” #12 “Next use the following discussion questions to stimulate positive attitudes toward condom use. Say…Which steps in this process can involve the female? Answers: Sexual arousal, rolling condoms on, intercourse, orgasm, holding onto rim, removing condom, and relaxation. She can also buy condoms and have them ready.” If male loses his erection after putting on a condom and before intercourse, what could the couple do? Answer: This will happen to most males at some point in their lives. Have partner take off condom, continue playing and stimulating one another, relax, and enjoy the fun. After a while, put a new condom on as part of the play.” (This scenario spreads STDs through fluids.) “Summarize by saying, “Remember and practice these steps so that you can make the proud choice and use condoms every time you have sex.””

Pg. 150. Making Proud Choices: “HOW TO MAKE CONDOMS FUN AND PLEASURABLE” 6th Grade/Middle School   Activity B   Procedure for Teachers

Rational: “Helping participants see how they can make condom use fun and pleasurable for themselves and their partners encourages consistent use and a sense of pride and responsibility.” “Add the following ideas to the list if they [students] were not already mentioned by the participants.” “Sex is more fun when condoms are used because…You can use condoms as a method of foreplay. You can think up sexual fantasy using condoms. You can act sexy/sensual when putting condoms on. You can hide one on your body and ask your partner to find it. You can tease each other sexually while putting on the condom. You can have fun putting one on our partner while pretending you are different people or in different situations. You feel more relaxed and can really enjoy yourself. Condoms make erections last longer.

Pg. 151. “Condoms won’t ruin the mood if…You use extra lubrication inside and outside the condom. You use different colors and types/textures. You tell your partner that using condoms can make a man last longer. The partner puts the condom on the penis. You have a sense of humor and make jokes. You put lubricant on the tip of the penis to increase sensitivity or use lubricated condoms. You talk about them in advance. You have the condom open and ready to use.”

*Facilitator note: “Emphasize that you are not endorsing sexual activity among teenagers.”

Pg. 152. MPC is not about learning self-control or delaying sexual activity. “#7. Ask the group to define “spontaneous.” Answers may include: Just do it. Natural flow. No interruptions. No need to wait. #8. “Then, ask them to brainstorm ways to increase the spontaneity and pleasure of condom use. Answers may include: Make sure you have condoms available before you get romantic. Eroticize condom use with partner. (Make it sexy.), Have condoms close by to eliminate fumbling. Prepare the condom in advance. Learn to put the condom on first. Use extra lubricant.” #9. “Encourage everyone to respond. Do you feel prepared to use a condom if you have sex? Will you use one?”

Pg. 153. “Summarize as follows… Once you and your partner both agree to use condoms, do something positive and fun. Go to the store together. Buy lots of different brands and colors. Plan a special day when you can experiment. Just talking about how you’ll use all of those condoms can be a turn on. Remember, the proud and responsible thing to do is to always use latex condoms if you have sex.” (When are 11-13 year olds supposed to practice this? While parents are at work?)

 ****

Imagine a vulnerable, yet curious pubescent minor sitting through these lessons. Sex between and with minors is taught as normal, healthy, and expected. They are groomed to have sex as soon as they “feel ready” and can find a willing partner. Or, as soon as they get home they google more ideas about sex which exposes them to internet porn. The average age for adolescents to become addicted to porn and to be recruited for sex trafficking is 12.

Since 1 in 4 children are sexually molested, abused, exploited by the time they are 18, classes probably includes several minors who have been, or are currently being sexually manipulated. What are they to think? That the abuser is the normal person and that they have no right to feel abused or exploited?

Not only does Making Proud Choices! introduce sex to minors when they are the most vulnerable, it is not “medically accurate” or “age appropriate.” Many of the lessons offer false assurances of “safety” with condoms and some activities taught actually spread STDs. There is no concern for the student’s emotional, spiritual, or brain health. The fact that these students are all minors should immediately label Making Proud Choices! as “age inappropriate.”

Once the content of Making Proud Choices! is fully known and the agenda behind it understood, it is obvious that this program is not in the best interest of Charleston students.