Making Proud Choices!…Still a Problem for Parents

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By Debbie Jones – Charleston, South Carolina

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Revised version of Making Proud Choices! in Charleston, SC. Page 87

Making Proud Choices! is still under consideration by the Charleston County School District for middle and high school. Over the summer, a group of parents reviewed the revised Making Proud Choices! to determine if there was anything of concern contained in it. 

Public protests forced the proponents of Making Proud Choices! to “sanitize” the Facilitator Manual of some content that parents found vulgar and offensive. While we are sure they did their best, the parents found that the messaging remains the same in the revised version. The DVDs, posters, activities, and student workbooks, and handouts, which will also be used, were not edited and remain the same. 

The parents conclude that Making Proud Choices! is still unacceptable, and even harmful for students. It is the mindset of the authors, proponents, and teachers, who would tell these things to our children that bothers us the most.

WHO thinks that teaching sexual foreplay to adolescents and teens is a smart way to prevent pregnancies and disease?

“Abstinence” should never be taught as “avoiding unprotected sex.”

Any information about sex should stick to the facts as the SC Law instructs. Making Proud Choices! violates the Law by not teaching abstinence from all sexual activity, does not emphasize abstinence until marriage, does not teach the benefits of marriage, and does not inform students about the risks and limitations of contraception.  

Following are some of the comments from parents about their findings:  

  • The lessons are designed to be interactive…Imagine self-conscious adolescents and teens participating in these activities:

    • One lesson has students talking one-on-one to brainstorm endings to these kinds of sentences. “A person can make condoms less awkward by…”

    • In one lesson students have to stand under a sign that says if they agree or disagree about attitude statements such as, “Abstinence is an easy choice to make” and “It would be easy to talk about contraception with my friends including boyfriend/girlfriend.”  What kinds of message does this send to peers?

    • Students brainstorm the names of condom brands and are taught about types and flavors of condoms, including condoms designed for little boys called Easy Rider. (page 87)

    • During the condom practice demonstrations where condoms, lubrication and a penis model are provided to each student pair, the facilitator is supposed to say, “Some religions and individuals do not believe in using condoms. Your beliefs will become an important part of your decision making.” (page 86) Teen sex and how sex and reproduction are  taught is a public health issue, not just a religious issue. 

    • The condom use activities break down natural inhibitions that children have at their age regarding sexual activity. Facilitator note, “There may be lots of giggling and nervous behavior. The participants will have lots of fun.” (page 90)

  • Overall, it [Making Proud Choices! revised version] still just pays lip-service to abstinence.

    • “Marriage” was only mentioned once. “At some point most people transition from abstinence to being sexually active…” [as in marriage] (page 42) This is not true. According to the CDC, most students surveyed nationally (17 and under) have not had sex. Why tell 11-17 year old students that most of their peers will have sex, except to normalize it? 

    • Making Proud Choices! glorifies condom use. One scenario had a girl saying, “I’m glad you agreed to use condoms. I feel like you really care about me.” (page 178)

    • In the lesson on negotiating and refusing sex when you don’t have a condom, one acceptable response was, “Let’s go buy some condoms right now.” None of the responses considered recommitting to abstinence. (page 180)

    • It normalizes sexual behavior for young teens. The Facilitator’s guide discusses the scenario of two 14 year-olds who have been dating for a year and both want to have sex. The ultimate solution is condoms and “Safe Sex.” (page 122) Why are they not told that they are minors incapable of legally consenting to sex with anyone

    • It redefines “intimacy” as just sex. A note to the facilitator says, “Main points to cover: Other things can lead to intimacy and orgasm without risking getting pregnant or infected with an STD or HIV.” (page 124) Sex affects the whole person and should be much more than keeping the genitals safe. 

    • Making Proud Choices! is just a sex program for minors and teens. It teaches how to have sex and how to have protected sex with condoms. It is not about reproduction or how to form a family within marriage. (pages 2, 4, 10, 60-66)

    • Where is the research to support the following statement? Adolescents “struggle with issues of self-esteem, and self-pride. Due to this, it is extremely important that they learn to feel good about themselves and their decision to practice safe sex.” (pages 13, 81 #10)

    • Making Proud Choices! in no way teaches teens the skills to say no to sex, only how to say no to “unprotected sex.” And, it fails to teach students that condoms are not 100% protective. Students should be reminded about this often throughout the course.

    • It fails to teach students that some STDs do not have symptoms. It states that anyone can get STDs, and that condoms are the only way to prevent the transmission of STDs. That is medically inaccurate information. What about abstinence? Students who abstain do not get STDs and several STDs are spread outside the protection of a condom. (pages 73-77)

    • Sexually active teens are not encouraged to return to an abstinent lifestyle. It is assumed that sexually active teens will continue having sex.

    • Redefines what it means to be “Proud and Responsible” within a sexual context, regardless of the values they have learned from their parents. Rationale: “The emphasis on being proud and responsible provides motivation for engaging in health-protective behavior and for encouraging others to do the same.” (page 40)

    • It teaches students to always use condoms when having vaginal, oral, and anal sex. This assumes they will have vaginal, oral and anal sex. Adolescents are concrete in their thinking and take instruction at face value. Therefore, this is not age appropriate. It also normalizes all types of sexual acts.

    • Students are not taught that infatuation and/or sexual activity can affect their judgment. Yet, during the condom lessons they are told, “Refrain from using alcohol or other drugs because they affect your judgment.” (page 92)

    • In the lesson on Risk Behaviors for HIV, students are taught Green Light, Yellow Light, and Red Light activities. The lesson is about HIV transmission, but is that what teens will remember? The immaturity and impulsiveness of adolescents and teens is not considered when labeling sexual behaviors as Yellow Lights. Many teens will take the challenge, take the hit, and might think that these activities are what they can “get away with.” Yellow Light activities are:

      • “Touching your partner’s body parts”

      • “Vaginal sex using a condom”

      • “Oral sex on a female using a dental dam or condom” and

      • “Having sex with only one partner using a condom.” (page 108)

  • In the activity “Condoms are the Proud and Responsible Thing to Do!” students are told that:

    • “If you use condoms, it will be easier to reach your goals and dreams” “You will feel better about yourself (higher self-esteem)” and “You can do more for your family and community.” (page 150) Where is the research to support this? 

    • Students are also told that “Condoms don’t have to be embarrassing if…You have a supply of them ready to use.” (page 150-153)  

    • This lesson is one that was “cleaned up” by the proponents. It use to be called, “How To Make Condoms Fun and Pleasurable!” The verbiage about how condoms can be used as a method of foreplay, sexual fantasy, sexy/sensual, teasing, hiding condoms on your body, and how condoms make erections last longer have been removed. The intent of the revised lesson is the same.

  • None of the material as presented in the videos is age appropriate in my estimation. There seemed to be a nominal suggestion of abstinence, and then immediate reference back to the use of condoms. There was nothing about abstinence until marriage.

    • One of the DVDs to be shown in class describes how to use condoms during sex, by talking about the female’s role, sexual arousal, rolling condom on, intercourse, orgasm, holding onto the rim, removing the condom and relaxation. Videos (visual images) will be remembered longer than words.

    • Another DVD called “Nicole’s Choice” was difficult for me to watch. The video opens and closes with scenes of heavy foreplay and intercourse. There is talk about having unprotected sex. Nicole now wants her partner to use a condom. Another scene shows Nicole at a doctor visit. The doctor talks about STDs, including HPV, prior to the exam. Nicole finds out that she has an STD from a previous boyfriend. Her girlfriend shuns her only to find out that she, too, had sex with that same boy and is infected as well. There is talk about how condoms can be fun by using different kinds of condoms. Abstinence is mentioned at the end, but there seems to be laughing and mocking about it. Then more talk about the pleasures of condoms, putting them on, lubricating, etc. Contracting an STD is no longer the problem. The problem to be solved becomes making sex with condoms fun, so that they will be used. If HPV is the STD contracted, nothing is said about HPV being transmitted skin-to-skin outside of the protection of a condom. Condoms do not make sex 100% safe.

    • A DVD called “Wrap It Up” Teen Condom Use…” revolves around a boy not wanting to use a condom. He says he will protect his partner by “pulling out.” His partner encourages him salaciously by talking about types, colors, flavors of condoms, putting them on, etc. There really is no talk about abstinence as to what it really is, the healthiest choice, but is spoken of by the girl as a THREAT, if the condom is not used. This was terribly disturbing to me.

The revised version of Making Proud Choices! is still unacceptable. It sends unhealthy, even dangerous messages to adolescents and teens about the appropriateness of sexual activity at their age and outside of marriage.

Making Proud Choices! omits “medically accurate information” about the risks and side effects of hormonal contraception and the limitations of condoms. It censors healthy messages such as abstinence and marriage, and promotes sensuality. It teaches immature students how to reach orgasm by using condoms, as part of STD prevention, and it gives students false assurances that if they use condoms, they will have a happy future. Where is the research to support that?

If academic achievement is the goal of our schools, how can students learn anything when the school and students’ minds are saturated with sexual information?

If this concerns you, as it did the parents who spent hours reviewing the revised edition of Making Proud Choices!, contact your School Board Trustees. Consider sending these comments to the Trustees.

Our children deserve better.

Charleston, SC: Explicit Sex Program on Agenda

Making Proud Choices pictureDo you think your voice matters? Sometimes it doesn’t. After a dozen parents in Charleston County School District testified against Making Proud Choices!, with no one signed-up to speak in favor of it, the Health Advisory Committee (HAC) voted unanimously to send it forward to the Strategic Education Committee (SEC). The HAC did not listen. Their minds were made up, and they like to keep meetings to one-hour.

The SEC meets on Tuesday, July 7 at 9 AM.

However, sometimes your voice does matter, a lot! A similar effort failed in 2013 when one parent asked the 3-Trustees on the SEC to open and read just a few pages of the MPC! curriculum. This happened after the room full of proponents had spoken and assured the SEC that this programs was Evidence-based and essential for Charleston’s children. The Trustees were so stunned and surprised by the pornographic nature of the lessons that they voted to table it immediately.

Now, Making Proud Choices! is back on the agenda.

One parent made the difference two years ago. This time we need many more voices!

The HAC assured us at the last meeting that explicit sexual language and other issues have been edited. Are they admitting that MPC! contains porn? Who edited it? What is their expertise? If their background and bias is in condoms-only, risk reduction sex education, then they are not qualified to evaluate a program for abstinence content. Are we going to let them practice on our children with an unproven sex program?

School districts across the US often claim that curricula will be “edited” to conform with community standards. They will say and do anything to get the grant money promised by the Planned Parenthood Network.

After our team reviewed the so-called edits to MPC!, nothing about our position changed. We had not cherry-pick our objections from the curriculum. We used page numbers and quotes as concrete examples of the underlying problems with this sex program. The assumptions are made that “all kids will have sex” and “there’s nothing we can do to stop them” and “we just have to teach them how to have sex safely.”

MPC! and “Safe Sex” programs are an asinine approach to educating minors about sexual health. Sensible adults and authorities talk to kids about avoiding drugs, tobacco, alcohol, and gangs. And, laws that protect and restrict kids from using these products and participating in dangerous activities are enforced. Yet, when it involves preventing sexual activity and the exploitation of minors, those laws and sensibilities disappear.

It’s as if promoting “safe sex” has become the primary focus of the

Department of Education!

Every teen, regardless of sexual history or sexual orientationdeserves to be taught, and reminded often, about the benefits of abstinence and marriage. People seek to change their behaviors every day. They do this with eating habits, drugs, tobacco, alcohol and their peer groups. Sex programs like MPC! are kin to giving an addict a steady supply of the very substance they are trying to avoid.

Many sexually active teens and adults decide to return to abstinence and wait for life-long commitment, rather than settle for short-term uncommitted relationships. We should do everything we can to promote this kind of mature behavior.

 “Cleaning up” pornographic sex ed is like putting lipstick on a pig. It’s still a pig! 

Contact the Charleston County School Trustees and tell them to Vote NO! against Making Proud Choices!

PS: See what happened at a School Board Meeting in Florida! This is so typical!

Now, what will you do? We must stand up. If we don’t, it’s on us.

If we do, it’s on them. 

 

Update: Making “Poor” Choices! Charleston, SC

Making Proud Choices pictureMaking Proud Choices! (MPC!) passed the so-called Health Advisory Committee (HAC) last week and is now on the fast-track for approval from the Charleston County School District. Even after a dozen citizens testified against MPC!, and no one spoke in favor of it, the HAC voted unanimously to send it to the Strategic Education Committee (SEC) which meets Tuesday, June 2 at 9 AM.

A similar effort failed in 2013 when 3-Trustees on the SEC were asked to read just a few pages of content and were so alarmed by the pornographic nature of the lessons that they voted to table it immediately.

The HAC assured us that the pornographic language and other issues have been edited. However, after reviewing their edits, it changes nothing about our objections to this Condoms-Only Sex Program.

Within days of the HAC decision, it was reported that a Communities In Schools representative pressured a middle school principal to use the unapproved MPC!

What’s up with that?

What is Making Proud Choices!?

It is a condoms-only sex program used in some SC counties targeting minors (11-13), who cannot legally consent to sex. MPC! is listed on websites of the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education, including Planned Parenthood, Advocates for Youth, and SIECUS. All of these entities authored or support the National Sexuality Education Standards, the “Common Core” for Sexual Rights Education. The infrastructure for Common Core will act as a conduit for the National Sexuality Education Standards. (See previous post about MPC!)

An April 2015 report on MPC! was presented at The Texas Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy conference just a few weeks ago. Planned Parenthood of Greater Texas taught MPC! targeting African American and Hispanic children in 8th and 9th grade, while a control group was taught a regular health program.

By the end of the 3-year project, more of the MPC! 8th grade students:

  • Had sex for the first time
  • Had sex within 3 months after the program
  • Had unprotected sex, and
  • Were less likely to consistently use condoms…compared to the control students.

MPC! students scored higher on knowledge, but they were less confident that they could say no, to having sex.

Our protest is not about whether contraception should be taught in schools. It is about how and when contraception should be taught.

There is no assurance that any HAC edits or “improvements” will be implemented since the final version of the curriculum has not been made public. And, if significant changes are made, then it should be sent back for medical accuracy approval and evaluations by an independent agency.

As it stands, MPC!:

  • Goes far beyond the scope of law to teach minors sexual foreplay techniques, and how to have fun, pleasurable, erotic sex with condoms, under the guise of STD/HIV prevention.
  • Teaches minors that abstinence is the same as “avoiding unprotected sex.”
  • Violates SC Law by not emphasizing abstinence from sexual activity until marriage. The message is clearly to have sex whenever you “feel” ready. Like Friday night?
  • Targets 11-13 year old legal minors which should automatically deem it inappropriate. (Twelve is the average age for porn addiction and sex trafficking.)

The adolescent brain is not mature until about age 25. MPC! and other similar programs groom and exploit minors to engage in sexual activities right at the time when their brains are rapidly developing neural pathways and are most vulnerable to sexual influences.

With twenty-five percent of youth sexually abused by the time they are 18, the probability of sexually exploited children sitting in these classes is high. What are they to think and feel when they hear a trusted teacher tell them that sexual activity is normal and safe for children their age?

Making Proud Choices! is a poor and harmful choice for our children. Charleston’s youth deserve better!

Contact the Charleston County School Trustees and tell them to

Vote NO! against Making Proud Choices!

 

Charleston, SC: Making PORN Choices?

Making Proud Choices pictureMaking Proud Choices! (MPC) is on the fast-track by the so-called Health Advisory Committee (HAC) to get Charleston County School District approval. A similar effort failed in 2013 when School Board Trustees were asked to read just a few pages of content and were so alarmed that they voted to table it immediately.

Now they are back. Who are they?

The HAC includes several Sexual Rights Advocates linked to local, state and national Planned Parenthood organizations, New Morning Foundation/TellThemSC, Advocates for Youth, SC Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, ACLU, and others aligned with the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education.

While they claim to support the SC Comprehensive Health Education Act (SC Law), they work behind the scenes to gut it of all intent and to promote their Sexual Rights agenda. By promoting undefined and ambiguous ideas such as “medically accurate information,” and “age appropriate” content, they subvert SC Law by redefining abstinence to mean “avoiding unprotected sex,” omit teaching about marriage, and instruct students as young as 11 in how to “safely” perform “fun and pleasurable” sexual foreplay, and oral, anal, and vaginal intercourse.

They groom and exploit minors to engage in sexual activities just at the time when their brains are rapidly developing neural pathways and are most vulnerable to sexual influences.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, pornography is defined as “printed or visual material containing explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity intended to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feelings.” After reading some of the content of MPC, where minors are instructed in how to “eroticize” condom use, it is obvious that this curriculum includes pornographic material.

 Any adult saying these same things to a neighbor’s adolescent child would be arrested for exploiting a minor.

What is Making Proud Choices!?

It is a sex education curriculum for minors (11-13), who cannot legally consent to sex. It is listed on websites represented by the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education.

Evaluation Results: MPC was evaluated as a Saturday program, not in a school setting. Like most similar sex programs, MPC targets low-income, inner-city, African American minors. The mean age was 11.8 years. In some areas of the country, students are paid $100 to take the Saturday classes.

  • Three months after the program, condom use at last sex increased. Students were less likely to have unprotected sexual intercourse.
  • There were no program impacts for virgins at any point during the study.
  • By the end of the study, there were no statistically significant program impacts on overall rates of sexual intercourse or frequency of sexual intercourse.
  • There was no delay of sex. The program did not increase abstinence.

General Information: While MPC never claims to be abstinence education, it is marketed by Sexual Rights Advocates to school districts as an abstinence-based program. The cover page for MPC states that it is a “Safer-Sex Approach to Teen Pregnancy, STDs & HIV.” MPC redefines abstinence to mean “avoiding unprotected sex” or “avoiding unsafe sex” and then repeats the term “abstinence” hundreds of times throughout the curriculum.

Following are direct quotes from MPC Facilitator Manual.

PAGE: (4.1 Edition 2012)

Pg. 60 “Therefore, it is important to avoid these consequences and practice abstinence or at least safer sex.”

Pg. 70 Abstinence is redefined to mean abstaining from unsafe sex: Attitude Statements: “Condoms can be fun and pleasurable if you know the skills to make them that way.” “Girls who carry condoms are smart, responsible, proud, and safe.” “Refusing unsafe sex is the proud responsible thing to do.”

Pg. 85 “Sex can still feel great with condoms. You can make sex fun by using condoms. We’ll learn this later on today.” “It is important that everyone learn how to use condoms correctly.” “Knowing your sexual partner very well does not mean you are safe. You need to use condoms; then you do not have to worry.”

Pg. 87 Kiddie condoms for little penises: #4 “Brainstorm brands and types of condoms…Trojan, Lifestyle, Easy Rider, Rough Rider, flavored, ribbed, ticklers, HotShot (specifically designed for younger teens.)”

Pg. 92 “To protect yourself and your partner from sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV infection, you should: Keep a supply of condoms on hand. Get used to condoms, so they are natural and fun…..Refrain from using alcohol or other drugs because they affect your judgement.” “Condoms make sense. Condoms help protect both partners from pregnancy and STDs, including HIV. However, you must use them correctly every time you have vaginal, oral, or anal intercourse.” 11-13 year old students are not told to avoid sex, but how to engage in it “safely.”

Pg. 98 “Now you know the basics about HIV infection. These are the facts that can help you make proud choices so you can reach your goals in life.” Emotional and neurological consequences of sex are not considered.

Pg. 108 Risk Behaviors: These behaviors are listed as Green, Yellow, and Red Light. Condom use is the goal, not abstinence from all sexual activity. Rather than teaching minors how to avoid risks, they are teaching minors what they can get away with sexually.As long as condoms are used, the following behaviors are discussed as Yellow Light risks: “Having sex with a person who is having sex with others, oral sex on a guy without a condom, mutual masturbation, and vaginal sex, oral sex on a girl using a dental dam, having sex with multiple partners and using condoms, having monogamous sex.”

Pg. 149. Teaching girls how to sexually service boys/partners: “Facilitator Note: Relaxation can wander throughout the whole process to show that relaxation should be a continuous part of the process. Loss of erection can also happen at any time throughout the process.” #12 “Next use the following discussion questions to stimulate positive attitudes toward condom use. Say…Which steps in this process can involve the female? Answers: Sexual arousal, rolling condoms on, intercourse, orgasm, holding onto rim, removing condom, and relaxation. She can also buy condoms and have them ready.” If male loses his erection after putting on a condom and before intercourse, what could the couple do? Answer: This will happen to most males at some point in their lives. Have partner take off condom, continue playing and stimulating one another, relax, and enjoy the fun. After a while, put a new condom on as part of the play.” (This scenario spreads STDs through fluids.) “Summarize by saying, “Remember and practice these steps so that you can make the proud choice and use condoms every time you have sex.””

Pg. 150. Making Proud Choices: “HOW TO MAKE CONDOMS FUN AND PLEASURABLE” 6th Grade/Middle School   Activity B   Procedure for Teachers

Rational: “Helping participants see how they can make condom use fun and pleasurable for themselves and their partners encourages consistent use and a sense of pride and responsibility.” “Add the following ideas to the list if they [students] were not already mentioned by the participants.” “Sex is more fun when condoms are used because…You can use condoms as a method of foreplay. You can think up sexual fantasy using condoms. You can act sexy/sensual when putting condoms on. You can hide one on your body and ask your partner to find it. You can tease each other sexually while putting on the condom. You can have fun putting one on our partner while pretending you are different people or in different situations. You feel more relaxed and can really enjoy yourself. Condoms make erections last longer.

Pg. 151. “Condoms won’t ruin the mood if…You use extra lubrication inside and outside the condom. You use different colors and types/textures. You tell your partner that using condoms can make a man last longer. The partner puts the condom on the penis. You have a sense of humor and make jokes. You put lubricant on the tip of the penis to increase sensitivity or use lubricated condoms. You talk about them in advance. You have the condom open and ready to use.”

*Facilitator note: “Emphasize that you are not endorsing sexual activity among teenagers.”

Pg. 152. MPC is not about learning self-control or delaying sexual activity. “#7. Ask the group to define “spontaneous.” Answers may include: Just do it. Natural flow. No interruptions. No need to wait. #8. “Then, ask them to brainstorm ways to increase the spontaneity and pleasure of condom use. Answers may include: Make sure you have condoms available before you get romantic. Eroticize condom use with partner. (Make it sexy.), Have condoms close by to eliminate fumbling. Prepare the condom in advance. Learn to put the condom on first. Use extra lubricant.” #9. “Encourage everyone to respond. Do you feel prepared to use a condom if you have sex? Will you use one?”

Pg. 153. “Summarize as follows… Once you and your partner both agree to use condoms, do something positive and fun. Go to the store together. Buy lots of different brands and colors. Plan a special day when you can experiment. Just talking about how you’ll use all of those condoms can be a turn on. Remember, the proud and responsible thing to do is to always use latex condoms if you have sex.” (When are 11-13 year olds supposed to practice this? While parents are at work?)

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Imagine a vulnerable, yet curious pubescent minor sitting through these lessons. Sex between and with minors is taught as normal, healthy, and expected. They are groomed to have sex as soon as they “feel ready” and can find a willing partner. Or, as soon as they get home they google more ideas about sex which exposes them to internet porn. The average age for adolescents to become addicted to porn and to be recruited for sex trafficking is 12.

Since 1 in 4 children are sexually molested, abused, exploited by the time they are 18, classes probably includes several minors who have been, or are currently being sexually manipulated. What are they to think? That the abuser is the normal person and that they have no right to feel abused or exploited?

Not only does Making Proud Choices! introduce sex to minors when they are the most vulnerable, it is not “medically accurate” or “age appropriate.” Many of the lessons offer false assurances of “safety” with condoms and some activities taught actually spread STDs. There is no concern for the student’s emotional, spiritual, or brain health. The fact that these students are all minors should immediately label Making Proud Choices! as “age inappropriate.”

Once the content of Making Proud Choices! is fully known and the agenda behind it understood, it is obvious that this program is not in the best interest of Charleston students.

 

PP-Network Takes Credit for Teen Abstinence??

1 in 4 girls has ever had sexWhile the Planned Parenthood Network (PP-Network) pumps out endless propaganda bashing abstinence-until-marriage education and takes credit for the dramatic decreases in teen pregnancies, CDC data shows that teens (15-17) have been abstaining from sex, at increasing rates, over the past decade. The most recent data shows that almost 75% of teens (15-17) nationally surveyed by the CDC, have not had sex.

To the PP-Network, the only problem with sex is that it makes babies and BABIES ARE A REAL PROBLEM for them. Sexual Rights is the PP-Network’s agenda. Therefore, whatever it takes to prevent babies from being conceived, developing or born is the goal of the sex and abortion industry.

Why is the PP-Network so OFFENDED by abstinence-until-marriage education?

Because, abstinence-until-marriage education promotes MARRIAGE and FIDELITY WITHIN MARRIAGE.

The PP-Network has no problem saying that they believe in abstinence, as long as they get to define what abstinence means. To them, oral sex, anal sex, and mutual masturbation are the same as abstinence, because these sex acts do not make babies.

And, these SexPerts have no problem telling kids to abstain, as long as there are no restrictions on how long they must wait. Abstinence to them can be until teens are 13, 16, 18 or whenever they feel they are ready to be “proud and responsible” enough to use condoms and take toxic hormones.

This is why Comprehensive Sex Education is such a farce. It is not, and cannot be, “comprehensive” since it would have to teach all views on the purposes of sex.

The PP view of sex ed is to promote hedonism without forming a family while Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education promotes romance and healthy family formation, within marriage, resulting in connected generations of families.

There is no comprehensive program or curriculum that could attempt to teach both views, with a straight face. It would be ludicrous! Which view do you think will provide the best future for your child?

Proponents of Comprehensive Sex Education claim that it covers abstinence and contraception and everything in between. Except that it doesn’t. What they hide from the public, and especially parents, is the fact that they do not teach about marriage, family formation, or the responsibilities of raising children. They teach sex.

Proponents also do not want it exposed that add-on programs, like Making A Difference! and Making Proud Choices!, both listed on PP’s website, teach sexual foreplay and intercourse, under the guise of STD prevention, so that condoms can be taught to younger and younger kids. However, sexual foreplay also spreads STDs. Medically Accurate?

Abstinence-Until-Marriage education is the exact opposite of the PP-Network’s Sexual Rights Agenda in the following ways:

Abstinence-Until-Marriage programs are holistic, meaning that humans are viewed as whole beings with value and uniqueness. The act of sex biologically impacts the mind, body, emotions and spirit as humans engage in it, even if there is no intercourse. This is why humans are different. We are not animals.

  • The PP-Network’s Sexual Rights Agenda views humans as genitals to be fondled, and maybe if convenient, protected from disease with condoms. Little girls and women are to use hormones to prevent or get rid of pregnancies. In the end, humans are simply sex toys for someone else’s pleasure. This is why the PP-Networks want no limits or restrictions on sex.  

Abstinence-Until-Marriage programs teach students that abstinence means not engaging in sexual activity until marriage, including vaginal, oral, anal sex and mutual masturbation. Such programs also teach about the dangers of porn, sexting, and cohabitation.

  • The PP-Network’s Sexual Rights Agenda promotes unbridled sexual activity – at any age – with anyone or anything – as long as there is “consent” – whatever that means.

Abstinence-Until-Marriage promotes life-long, faithful marriage. The social sciences have proven that there are at least Thirty Benefits of Marriage and that children fare best on all social indicators when raised by their own two married parents.

  • The PP-Network’s Sexual Rights Agenda seeks to destroy marriage as an institution and therefore the traditional family. Even the gay marriage movement is just a Progressive ploy to gradually redefine the family and get rid of marriage as an institution and a societal good. None of the sex programs for schools listed on the PP website promote marriage, even for gay couples.

Abstinence-Until-Marriage promotes the fact that sex is wonderful and creates intimacy – within the context of marriage. When sex takes place within a marriage, it is more likely to be safer than outside of marriage. Research has shown that married couples have more sex and more satisfying sex than singles.

  • The PP-Network’s Sexual Rights agenda promotes sex without boundaries, especially without the restraints of marriage, monogamy, or commitment. They portray an unrealistic, unsatisfying, and false view of “Hollywood” sex to get people of all ages hooked on sexual pleasures.    

Abstinence-Until-Marriage promotes the fact that waiting until one has finished their education, and married before having sex and children is the best way to become an economically self-sufficient and prosperous member of society with a stable family life.

  • The PP-Network’s Sexual Rights agenda teaches that humans are sexual from birth and need to have sex in order to mature properly. (Alfred Kinsey/SIECUS) They target poor, minority, inner city neighborhoods to push their sex without boundaries, contraception and abortion agenda. This increases the risks of generational poverty, drop-out rates, and unwed childbearing. 
  • Planned Parenthood receives millions of taxpayer dollars annually to promote their agenda, plus they are large part of Obamacare so the revolving door of poverty and dependency will continue to spin out of control.

So, why are teen pregnancy rates declining? For many reasons.

According to several CDC reports, more and more teens are choosing to delay sex and those who are having sex are being more selective. The PP Network cannot take credit for the increase in abstinence, because they do not seriously teach it.

Real credit needs to go to the smart teens themselves who are choosing to abstain. Also, to parents, faith leaders and educators who really care about kids and are not afraid to tell them to delay sex until marriage.

Let’s not give credit to those who are promoting a Sexual Rights Agenda and are being paid by the sex industries.

That would be a farce.

Ask a stupid question?

stupid alertTell Them SC, the advocacy arm of the New Morning Foundation, in league with the Planned Parenthood (PP) Sex Ed Network, is asking their members to send emails to the candidates for SC Governor and ask, “As Governor, would you support medically accurate sex education?”

That is really a stupid and leading question! I hope the candidates don’t fall for it!

Rather, the candidates should demand that “medically accurate sex education” be thoroughly defined by breaking down every component, providing scientific citations, and allowing transparency for all lessons taught in their so-called “age appropriate” programs.

That is how the PP Sexual Rights Agenda will be EXPOSED!

The PP Network in SC continues to push their so-called Healthy Youth Amendment (H3435) and will introduce it AGAIN in January 2015, even after two failed attempts. That’s what Progressives do!

To the PP Sex Ed Network, “medically accurate sex education” is defined by themselves (Planned Parenthood, SIECUS, Guttmacher Institute, National Sexuality Standards and Obamacare), along with their pro-abortion and “safe sex” advocates who publish in medical and public health journals.

Having the Planned Parenthood Network define “medically accurate sex ed” would be like having the R. J. Reynold’s Tobacco Company define “safe” cigarettes!

PP Sex Ed is “safe sex” education and it teaches minors as young as 11 years old how to “express their sexual feelings” through brainstorming activities about oral sex, sexual fantasy, anal sex, touching each others genitals and grinding. (Pg. 65 Making A Difference! for middle schools.)

The following is a direct quote from Making A Difference! Pg. 64: “We want you to know that at your age the proud and responsible things to remember are:

  • It’s OK to THINK about sex.
  • It’s Ok to TALK about sex.
  • It’s OK to DEVELOP feelings and attitudes about sex.

BUT it’s NOT a good idea to HAVE sex until you are prepared to have sex with respect and responsibility.” Really? Who determines what is means to be “age appropriate”, “respectful” and “responsible?”

  • When did I give the school permission to tell my 11-year-old son or daughter that:
  • it’s OK to TALK about sex? With whom? Could this lead to sexting?
  • it’s OK (for the PP Sex Network) to help my child “Develop feelings and attitudes about sex!”
  • when they know how to make “respectful and responsible” sexual decisions, it is OK to have sex?
  • what makes a good or bad idea? Are they teaching ideology? Values? Are these your values?

More than half of SC’s counties have PP “safe sex” programs in their schools and most parents have no idea what is taught. Just because a program, like Making A Difference!, says it is “Abstinence-only” does not mean it teaches “Abstinence-Until-Marriage.” It just means it does not promote contraception. Even so,  there is a big difference between “abstain until Friday night or when you feel ready” and “abstain until marriage.” Without boundaries, anything goes!

So, I hope our candidates, and our Legislators, won’t be duped into answering this stupid and leading question until the entire definition of “medically accurate sex education,” according to the Planned Parenthood Network is exposed.

Considering the welfare of your children, it may be the most important question they ever answer!

Read “What can I get away with today?” and more disturbing information about Sexual Foreplay Ed in our schools at ExposeSexEdNow.com

61% Decline in SC Teen Pregnancy Rates!

Who knewTeen Pregnancy Rates in South Carolina have dramatically decreased since abstinence-until-marriage programs were integrated into the state’s public schools in 1995.

Until then, teen pregnancy rates were at an all-time high due to HIV Condoms-Only programs that had saturated the state.

Coincidentally, Heritage Keepers®, a non-profit established in 1995 and the first statewide recipient of Title V, Section 510 Abstinence-Until-Marriage funding under Welfare Reform (1996), was implemented and continues to be the most effective abstinence-until-marriage program in the state, and the nation.

SC Teen Pregnancy Picture

(Pregnancy rates are defined as “the estimated number of the sum of live births, abortions, and fetal deaths.” Therefore, regardless of the outcome of the pregnancy, rates have decreased drastically.)

The Planned Parenthood Sex Ed Network, and the complicit media, certainly do not want you to know this and, in fact, they are taking credit for all drops in national teen pregnancy rates, even for the almost 75% of teens (15-17) who have not had sex! (CDC)

Using CDC’s own data, if only a fraction of the 25% of teens (15-17) nationally, who are currently sexually active used condoms, or birth control, then it stands to reason that the pregnancy rates would decrease.

But, there is no way the amazing decreases in teen pregnancies nationally would, or could, be primarily due to contraception!

imagesCA4NUD1CIt is a matter of common sense and biology, that not having sex (abstinence) is the best way to decrease pregnancies and it is by far the safest method. Teens are absolutely capable and willing to abstain if they are given the medically accurate, age appropriate information that they need and the skills to set high standards for their behavior.

Certified Heritage Keepers® Educators have taught in schools that also provide condoms-only programs. Those so-called “safe sex” programs have never deterred the staff at Heritage Keepers®, who believe that, regardless of sexual history or sexual orientation, every student deserves to know the benefits of marriage, the benefits of abstinence-until-marriage, and to learn the skills to achieve their goals.

This is why a year after the Heritage Keepers® program, students abstain at a rate 3 times greater than students not receiving the program. Even when students are being exposed to Sexual Foreplay programs in the same schools! Students know the difference between real abstinence and counterfeit abstinence programs.

Students who are abstaining, or want to abstain, feel validated in their decisions just by knowing that Heritage Keepers® is in their school and community! And, teens, who learn that they can have real control over their lives, want to avoid the sexual pressures in their culture, and escape the DRAMA, poverty and shattered dreams that sex outside of marriage can bring.

Heritage Keepers® continues to be the ONLY Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education program on the US HHS list of proven effective Evidence-based programs. It continues to be the ONLY proven effective Teen Pregnancy Prevention Program listed that changes teen attitudes and behavior regarding abstinence until marriage.

Don’t be fooled by imitation Abstinence Education programs! If the programs in your schools and community do not promote marriage and abstinence until marriage, they are not teaching boundaries and neuro-science tells us that teens need boundaries for healthy brain development and to reach their potential.

Abstinence-Until-Marriage programs, when implemented effectively by educators who believe in what they are teaching, can and will reduce teen pregnancies and that means fewer single teen moms struggling to make ends meet.

For the already drained taxpayers, it means fewer reasons for lawmakers to increase taxes to support these fragile families. 

South Carolina has a long way to go to aleviate poverty due to out-of-wedlock births, but teen pregnancy rates (15-17) are going in the right direction.

Check out Heritage Keepers® today so that your state, your church’s youth group, and your community can also get on the right road to success.