Is Marriage Still Legal in the U.S.?

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by Mary S. McLellan, MS, SRAS – Sexual Risk Avoidance Specialist

married-familyI thought marriage was still legal in the U.S. It seems the only kind of marriage that is legal and talked about anymore is Same Sex Marriage. What about Heterosexual Marriage? You know, the kind that has been proven the best method of family formation for children and adults for centuries?

Did you know that Heterophobia is a thing? It is the “fear of straight people.” The dictionary states that “it is an irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against heterosexual people.”

In many states, marriage was taken out of Health Education Standards eight years ago. Is it any wonder that kids grow up thinking that relationships and heterosexual marriage don’t matter? That it is normal and expected for them to have serial sexual relationships and babies by different parents throughout their lives?

Aren’t you sick of all the phobias? Following the Golden Rule would solve a lot of civility issues in our culture.

What about the children? Finally, someone cuts through the noise and focuses on the rights of children. Margaret Somerville, a professor of Bioethics in the School of Medicine at The University of Notre Dame Australia, writes in It’s about children’s rights, not sexual orientation,

“But when, as in same-sex marriage, we are faced with a conflict between children’s rights and adults’ claims, ethically we should choose in favour of the weakest, most in need, most vulnerable persons. That means choosing what is best for children.”

If this is true, why is it that traditional Heterosexual Marriage cannot be discussed in public schools? If children fare best on all social indicators when raised by their own two marriage biological parents, then why not teach about heterosexual marriage in Health Classes or Sex Ed? Why is it censored?

Is it any wonder that the U.S. ranks as a third world country on many social indicators?

We need to get back to the basics of building strong families. Jobs, civility, and national security matter, but the U.S. is fundamentally broken because of a disregard for marriage.

Heterosexual Marriage, that is.

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Bristol Palin Was Duped

Bristol PalinBristol Palin is no different than millions of Americans (50 and under), who are victims of the lie that “safe-sex” is equal to “abstinence.”

The Candie’s Foundation has never promoted Abstinence-Until-Marriage, nor does Comprehensive Sex Ed in the public schools. They promote “safe-sex” with condoms and call it “abstinence” education to betray the public.

“Abstinence,” as defined by the SexPerts in academia, education, media, and most Teen Pregnancy Prevention Programs, is “avoiding unprotected sex” or “avoiding unsafe sex” or “wait until you are ready, but use condoms sex.” By re-defining “abstinence” the SexPerts have controlled the message. Marriage is never promoted.

Scott Phelps, a national leader in the Abstinence-Until-Marriage movement has an excellent op-ed in the Chicago Sun-Times about Palin, Candie’s Foundation, and the difference between bogus “abstinence” and Abstinence-Until-Marriage education.

Bristol Palin is Neither a Hypocrite nor a Liar

BY SCOTT PHELPS July 4, 2015 – Chicago-Sun Times

Bristol Palin is facing stiff criticism in the wake of her announcement that she is pregnant for a second time — and still unmarried. She is being called a hypocrite due to her work as an abstinence advocate for the Candies Foundation. Palin denies ever being paid as an “abstinence spokesperson.” Posting evidence online to the contrary, her detractors now say that she is not only a hypocrite but also a liar.

Bristol Palin is right. She is neither.  Read more here…

The Sexual Rights Coalition eagerly jumped on Palin to smear all abstinence education as ineffective and unworthy of funding, while they themselves rely on the term “abstinence” to lie their way into public school districts. They cannot have it both ways! Their brand of “abstinence” education is nothing more than promoting sexual foreplay and sex with condoms to millions of minors, teen and adults.

Marriage is the key concept in Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education. That’s why the Sexual Rights Coalition hates it so much. Their agenda is to promote sex at any age outside of marriage. It is the Kinsey, Planned parenthood, SIECUS Sex Agenda.

Everyone in America deserves to be taught Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education, regardless of sexual history or sexual orientation. There is no “choice” if this valuable sexual health message continues to be censored in our schools and colleges.

“Safe Sex” as “abstinence” is fraud.

 

 

 

Sexual Rights…for Your Children?

 

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The Sexual Rights Cartels around the world have produced generations of so-called experts, educators, and elected-officials who believe that everyone has the right to sex with whoever they “need” to, regardless of age.

There are no boundaries for sexual exploitation.

The United Nations redefined “prostitution” to make the “profession” more respectable while ignoring how these women, and men, were forced into it.

At the UN, the politically correct phrases are: “trafficking,” “sex slavery,” “sex work,” and “sex workers.” This is Orwellian doublespeak…”

Employing the word “sex work” represents a prevailing point of view in which women are seen as having “agency,” and therefore can freely choose to be sex workers. The phrase “sex work” is an attempt to mainstream prostitution as just another form of work. Doing so utterly obliterates the fact that prostitutes are most often unwilling victims who suffer from a much higher rate of post-traumatic stress symptomatology than do combat veterans. It hides the fact that American Johns often want—and get—young children or certainly under-age children. Legally, a good deal of prostitution is pedophilia or legalized rape.

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Parents, your children are not safe! You cannot trust your schools, churches, elected officials, Health Departments, Social Service Agencies, or anyone else to protect your children. They have ALL failed. You are the only adults in your child’s life that will care enough to set boundaries and educate them on how to completely avoid the risky behaviors facing them.

Even if you failed to form a healthy family, you must now think about your child’s future. What will their family look like?

Find out how to teach your children about Healthy Family Formation, which includes the proven benefits of marriage and raising the next generation to be economically self-sufficient and emotionally healthy.

When parents finally wake up to the fact that sex is not just entertainment, but has biological and neurological implications for every individual and future generations, it may be too late.

Absolute social and economic chaos will be the norm, globally.

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Open Letter to State Legislators

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Dear State Legislators in America,

What you do this Spring in your state – no matter how large or small – is very important to stopping the Planned Parenthood/SIECUS/ACLU/Obamacare agendas to teach sexual activity to children.

If you do not know who each of these special interest groups are, then you have homework to do before you pass any laws!

Every motion, every bill, and every amendment pertaining to the sex education of our children will impact the fiscal, social, and physical health of your state.

The social sciences have proven that the more children that are raised apart from their own married mothers and fathers the more they, and your state, will suffer from poverty, disease, sexual and domestic abuse, low graduation rates, unemployment and crime.

Sex outside of marriage, and the chaotic family formation and destruction that results, are growing the welfare state. Until you get a grip and realize this, your state will continue to groan under the weight of entitlements and social misery.

Teaching minors in our taxpayer funded schools how to use condoms, take hormones, and seek abortions is no substitute for teaching them self-control, respect for themselves and others, and the benefits of abstaining from all risky behaviors including sex, drugs, tobacco, alcohol, and violence.

All of these risky behaviors derail our children’s futures. We have laws against underage sales of alcohol and tobacco, and laws against drugs and violence, but there seems to be no way to stop the purveyors of sex from reaching our children, even in the public schools. Children are suppose to be minors protected by the law, yet they are “legally” exposed to explicit sexual education paid for with our tax money.

Why do you think more and more families are pulling their children out of the public schools to either teach them at home or educate them in private or Christian schools? Values and character matter more to living a successful life than knowing math or science.

There is absolutely no way that a state or a nation can survive fiscally when less than half of the population must support the majority of the population. It is just not sustainable. What will you do to fix it?

Your job is to read and study each and every piece of Legislation, seek input from the experts in the field that it would impact, and never pass any legislation that you do not understand or that your gut tells you is questionable.

No matter what you’ve been told, you are not the smartest Legislator on the block. You just got elected! You are but one person in need of wisdom and discernment from God and input from your constituents on both sides of every issue.

Your state needs you to seek real input, not influence, and if you do this you will do a much better job of protecting children from the sexual filth that is already in their schools.

Passing vague ambiguous amendments out of committees just to get them off the docket is foolhardy and shameful. Even if you are not coming back next session, it reflects badly on your character and your ability to serve the people who elected you.

It would be better to stop an amendment that is sponsored by questionable groups and/or that you do not understand than to bow to peer pressure from your so-called colleagues in the room.

Bowing to peer pressure does not show quality character or leadership. How can you expect the children of your district to resist peer pressure, if you cave?

The children and the future of your state can live without another Law, but they cannot survived and thrive under the tyranny of the laws you are responsible for passing.

You are accountable, not only to your constituents, but to the God you say you serve. Do your job well and if you do, then we will thank you.

Real Sex Ed Debate: “Contraception” is Sexual Foreplay

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Stop_SignYear 2014 will usher in new Sex Ed Laws in many states, requiring that “contraception” be taught in middle and high school. But, is it “contraception” or sexual foreplay?

Most mandated Sex Ed today reads more like steamy sex therapy sessions than teen pregnancy and STD prevention education. Under the guise of “safe sex,” many curricula teach that as long as condoms are used, consensual sex is the “new standard” for sexual activity, not marriage.  

Sex Ed curricula, such as Making A Difference!, Making Proud Choices!, Be Proud! Be Responsible!, Safer Choices, Teen Outreach Program (TOP), Wise Guys! and others can be found on the Planned Parenthood and SIECUS websites. They have very little verbiage, if any, about the benefits of abstaining from sexual activity and do not mention marriage as the ideal context for sexual activity.

Consensual sex is the “new norm.”

These curricula teach students how to engage in “safe” sexual foreplay including oral sex and intercourse, how to experience the pleasures of sex, and about ways to eroticize sex, all while purportedly teaching condom skills to prevent STD transmission. 

Sex, and more sex, is the goal and “safety” is the Trojan Horse.

The problem is, sex outside of marriage can never be as safe as sex within a healthy, faithful marriage. This vital message is being censored from our teens.

The current Sex Ed debate is no longer about whether to teach Abstinence or Contraception. It is about whether to explain about methods of “contraception” or to teach “hands on” sexual foreplay skills under the guise of “contraception” education. 

Unlike Abstinence-until-Marriage education, so-called “Safer Sex” programs are not strictly regulated by the federal government. They are given free rein to teach anything they can get away with.

“Safer Sex” programs are designed to make teens feel “proud,” “responsible,” and more comfortable about having consensual sex as long as they use condoms or dental dams. But, are “Safe Sex” programs safe? Unfortunately, many STDs, such as HPV, Herpes, and Syphilis are transmitted outside of the “protection” of condoms and dental dams. And, since condoms cannot be used unless the male is sexually stimulated, it is reasonable to think that there is a lot of skin-to-skin (STD transmission) contact prior to using a condom or dental dam.

Do “Safe Sex” programs delay sex initiation, as they claim? Under the influence of sexual stimulation, it is counter intuitive to expect sex to be delayed and for condoms to be used correctly and consistently even by adults, much less impulsive teens.

The most respected researcher in the field of teen sexual activity is Stan Weed, PhD of the Institute for Research and Evaluation. Weed’s report on Teen Pregnancy Prevention programs in 2010 revealed that very few “Safe Sex” condom programs were effective at increasing abstinence or condom use for any length of time. In “Federally Funded Teen Pregnancy Prevention Programs: Not What They Claim to Be.”, Weed states that out of 28 programs approved in 2010,

“Only 2 TPP [Teen Pregnancy Prevention] programs demonstrated the ability to increase adolescents’ rate of consistent condom use for at least one year. Neither was a school-based program.”

Weed’s critique also calls out these TPP programs for their sexually explicit content, teaching “safe” alternative sexual behaviors (sexual foreplay), and that “Abstaining from sex is not a primary focus in the majority of TPP programs.”

Parents and elected officials need to study the Sex Ed Laws of their state, as well as all Sex Ed curricula approved under that Law. Afterwards, they may want to provide their own reading lessons for Legislators and School Board members.

In preparation, consider the following questions and decide whether instruction is being required or if, by default, “Safe(r) Sex” is allowed to slip in through the loopholes.

1.  Does your state’s Sex Ed Law include verbiage requiring the teaching of  “contraception” and/or “Safer Sex” for middle and high schools?

  • Does the Law define “contraception” or is “contraception” used broadly to include “birth control” hormones (Plan B, Emergency Contraception) and devices (Emergency IUDs) along with referrals to Planned Parenthood/Family Planning Clinics?
  • Does the Law define “Safe(r) Sex?”
  • Does the Law require that approved Sex Ed programs fulfill the Pregnancy Prevention Education and Reproductive Education requirements to be used in the schools? Programs like Making a Difference! and Making Proud Choices! do not fulfill all requirements of most state laws for Pregnancy Prevention or Reproductive Education, therefore other programs must be supplemented.

2. Does your Sex Ed Law include any verbiage requiring the teaching of sexual foreplay techniques including the use of dental dams for oral sex, eroticizing condom use with lubricants and detailed instructions for regaining erections? If not, is there any language to prevent such teaching?

3. Does your Sex Ed Law include any verbiage requiring teachers to use visual imagery or sexual fantasies to help students pretend they are somewhere else, or the opposite gender, or with someone else while engaging in sexual activity? Wouldn’t this require a license to practice psychotherapy in the classroom?

4. Does your Sex Ed Law require that abstinence until marriage be taught as the standard for all school age students? Does it loosely define abstinence, which allows “safe sex” curricula to claim that they are  abstinence-based or abstinence-first? If marriage is omitted as a cultural norm from the Law and also from the approved Sex Ed curricula, then there are no boundaries for sexual activity.

5. Who is in charge of making sure that all approved Sex Ed curricula comply with the state Sex Ed Law? Unaccountable bureaucrats?

6. Are there any approved Sex Ed curricula that have “Safe(r) Sex” in their title, on their cover, or part of their content? THIS IS A RED FLAG!

7. Are all approved Sex Ed curricula used in the schools the original evidence-based version evaluated for program effectiveness and listed on the US HHS website? Or, are they “adaptations” of the approved curricula, in order to gain approval? 

8. What are the behavioral outcomes for each approved Sex Ed curriculum used in your state?

  • Is each approved Sex Ed curriculum listed on the US HHS website as being proven effective and evidence-based for Teen Pregnancy Prevention?
    • If the curriculum is an abstinence-until-marriage program, does it significantly increase abstinent behaviors among participants, compared with non-program participants, as measured a year after the program?
    • If the curriculum is an abstinence-based “safer sex” program, does it significantly increase abstinent behaviors among participants, compared with non-program participants, as measured a year after the program?
    • If the curriculum is a “Safe Sex” condom program, does it significantly increase correct and consistent condom use for sexually active students, compared with sexually active non-program participants, as measured a year after the program?

9. Who trains the educators to teach approved Sex Ed curricula in your state?

10. Are there any abstinence-until-marriage curricula approved in your state/district that are listed on the US HHS website as being proven effective and evidence-based for Teen Pregnancy Prevention? If not, why not?

Getting answers to all of these questions will provide a much clearer picture of the sexual climate in your school, school district and state. Our schools should be promoting behaviors that are conducive to learning and achieving academic success. If this is not the case, then much work needs to be done quickly to protect children from sexual influences that can derail their futures.

Get busy!