Is Marriage Still Legal in the U.S.?

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by Mary S. McLellan, MS, SRAS – Sexual Risk Avoidance Specialist

married-familyI thought marriage was still legal in the U.S. It seems the only kind of marriage that is legal and talked about anymore is Same Sex Marriage. What about Heterosexual Marriage? You know, the kind that has been proven the best method of family formation for children and adults for centuries?

Did you know that Heterophobia is a thing? It is the “fear of straight people.” The dictionary states that “it is an irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against heterosexual people.”

In many states, marriage was taken out of Health Education Standards eight years ago. Is it any wonder that kids grow up thinking that relationships and heterosexual marriage don’t matter? That it is normal and expected for them to have serial sexual relationships and babies by different parents throughout their lives?

Aren’t you sick of all the phobias? Following the Golden Rule would solve a lot of civility issues in our culture.

What about the children? Finally, someone cuts through the noise and focuses on the rights of children. Margaret Somerville, a professor of Bioethics in the School of Medicine at The University of Notre Dame Australia, writes in It’s about children’s rights, not sexual orientation,

“But when, as in same-sex marriage, we are faced with a conflict between children’s rights and adults’ claims, ethically we should choose in favour of the weakest, most in need, most vulnerable persons. That means choosing what is best for children.”

If this is true, why is it that traditional Heterosexual Marriage cannot be discussed in public schools? If children fare best on all social indicators when raised by their own two marriage biological parents, then why not teach about heterosexual marriage in Health Classes or Sex Ed? Why is it censored?

Is it any wonder that the U.S. ranks as a third world country on many social indicators?

We need to get back to the basics of building strong families. Jobs, civility, and national security matter, but the U.S. is fundamentally broken because of a disregard for marriage.

Heterosexual Marriage, that is.

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Parents, take the “Predictors of Sexual Risks” Survey!

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The Sexual Rights Networks do not want you to know that there is an Evidence-based Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education curriculum approved for Teen Pregnancy Prevention and listed on the US Health and Human Services website.

Heritage Keepers is celebrating their 20th Anniversary! The following is reprinted with permission from the Healthy Family Formation Coalition, a social media component of Heritage Community Services:

 Parents, take the “Predictors of Sexual Risks” Survey!

Is your pre-teen/teen at risk for sexual activity, pornography, unhealthy relationships, and/or dangerous liaisons?

 Do they lack goals for the future and feel like they have few options?

Check all of the following behaviors that your adolescent/teen exhibits. 

My adolescent/teen: 

  1. Hangs-out with kids who drink alcohol, use drugs or tobacco.
  2. Seems depressed and lonely.
  3. Is home without parents for long periods of time.
  4. Has few/no rules about phone use.
  5. Watches too many shows or plays video games that have sexual content.
  6. Does not understand the differences between love, lust and infatuation.
  7. Only, feels good about themselves when they are in a relationship.
  8. Hangs out or has friends that I do not know.
  9. Likes to take risks and thinks he/she is invincible.
  10. Seems to view sex as “just sex,” or as a recreational activity.
  11. Does not have personal or career goals for the future.
  12. Spends too much time on entertainment, games, internet, and on social media/networking sites.
  13. Already drinks alcohol, uses drugs and/or tobacco.
  14. Identifies with a group, pack, gang, or clique rather than with family or as a unique person.
  15. Has a computer, phone, or other mobile devices in their bedroom.
  16. Does not have a curfew or rules that must be followed.
  17. Goes to a school where students talk openly about sexual activities.
  18. Is so attached to their friends and/or social media that they are depressed without them/it.
  19. Does not see marriage and family in their future.
  20. Is crushed or deeply hurt if their peer group laughs or ridicules them about clothing, rules, etc.
  21. Seems desperate to have a girlfriend or boyfriend.
  22. Gives in to peer pressure easily.
  23. Thinks that everyone their age is having sex.
  24. Thinks that using contraception justifies having sex.
  25. Has electronic devices that lack pornography filters.
  26. Posts provocative pictures or sexual content (sexting) to the internet.
  27. Thinks that couples who are not having sex are old-fashioned or weird.
  28. Intends to have sex after graduation or to “get it over with” so that they can tell their friends.
  29. Thinks that oral sex and anal sex are safe.
  30. Believes that sex has no impact on emotions.
  31. Does not believe it is valuable to wait until marriage before having sex.
  32. Believes that “serious” dating relationships justify having sex.
  33. Talks about sex proving popularity or maturity or desirability.
  34. Cannot verbalize why abstinence is a healthy choice for himself/herself.
  35. Lack confidence in their ability to abstain.
  36. Thinks that sex is a good way to show a dating partner love.
  37. Believes that sexually transmitted diseases do not exist in his/her school or community.
  38. Has sexually active friends.
  39. Is only interested in dating someone older or younger.
  40. Prioritizes dating relationships over educational or household responsibilities.

 

What are Predictors of Sexual Activity?

Through more than twenty years of reviewing surveys of more than 650,000 students across the USA, Central America and Russia, Dr. Stan Weed of the Institute for Research and Evaluation has identified statistically significant predictors of whether a young person is likely to abstain or initiate sex.

If your teen exhibits any of the above statements, they may be more likely to initiate early sexual activity than someone who does not.

 It is important for parents to understand these Predictors of Sexual Activity and be able address them as they talk to their teen about sex and their intentions to abstain. While many predictors cannot be easily changed, these predictors are subject to your influence and if you are not doing the influencing, you may be assured that someone else – in school, through the media, or in your teen’s peer group – is!

 The Heritage Keepers® Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education program is designed around these scientifically derived Predictors of Sexual Activity. This means that every Certified Heritage Keepers® Educator has been trained to positively influence these Predictors in every lesson that they teach.

This is why the Heritage Keepers® program works to increase abstinence! It is also the ONLY Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education Curriculum listed by US Health and Human Services as an Evidence-based Teen Pregnancy Prevention Program!

 After one year, Heritage Keepers® students abstain at a rate 3 times that of non-program students!

In SC, Heritage Community Services conducts FREE workshops to introduce the program, provide resources, and inform participants about how they can be empowered to protect teens from risky behaviors. Each participant or couple receives a copy of our adult training manual entitled Sex, Lies and Hook Ups: A Parent’s Guide to Fighting Back

 Heritage Keepers staff have trained school districts, state health departments, and non-profits to provide their program nationally and internationally. Contact us today about the Heritage Keepers® program!

Sexual Rights…for Your Children?

 

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The Sexual Rights Cartels around the world have produced generations of so-called experts, educators, and elected-officials who believe that everyone has the right to sex with whoever they “need” to, regardless of age.

There are no boundaries for sexual exploitation.

The United Nations redefined “prostitution” to make the “profession” more respectable while ignoring how these women, and men, were forced into it.

At the UN, the politically correct phrases are: “trafficking,” “sex slavery,” “sex work,” and “sex workers.” This is Orwellian doublespeak…”

Employing the word “sex work” represents a prevailing point of view in which women are seen as having “agency,” and therefore can freely choose to be sex workers. The phrase “sex work” is an attempt to mainstream prostitution as just another form of work. Doing so utterly obliterates the fact that prostitutes are most often unwilling victims who suffer from a much higher rate of post-traumatic stress symptomatology than do combat veterans. It hides the fact that American Johns often want—and get—young children or certainly under-age children. Legally, a good deal of prostitution is pedophilia or legalized rape.

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Parents, your children are not safe! You cannot trust your schools, churches, elected officials, Health Departments, Social Service Agencies, or anyone else to protect your children. They have ALL failed. You are the only adults in your child’s life that will care enough to set boundaries and educate them on how to completely avoid the risky behaviors facing them.

Even if you failed to form a healthy family, you must now think about your child’s future. What will their family look like?

Find out how to teach your children about Healthy Family Formation, which includes the proven benefits of marriage and raising the next generation to be economically self-sufficient and emotionally healthy.

When parents finally wake up to the fact that sex is not just entertainment, but has biological and neurological implications for every individual and future generations, it may be too late.

Absolute social and economic chaos will be the norm, globally.

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Final Throes of Transformation?

Obama and PPIn order to get public buy-in for genocide, there had to be mass indoctrination beginning at a very young age. Generations of children had to be Progressively trained to accept the slaughter of the unborn by neutralizing this “product of conception” and viewing its destruction as a good, charitable, and even merciful act.

Once trained to pay for this destruction (taxes/Obamacare) we were hooked.

And so, Planned Parenthood Sex Education was designed and implemented in our public schools, and in many churches, to systematically brainwash generations into separating all sexual activity from the realm of intimacy and procreation to simply another form of entertainment and enlightenment, much like Netflix and Facebook.

Separating the act of sex from life-long commitment, conception, children, parenting, marriage, and family is the means by which the destruction of marriage, family and society and the takeover of whole populations is achieved.

We are in the final throes of this Progressive transformation of America.

Read more: Planned Parenthood: Culture of  Genocide 

Shelby Knox: Exploited by the Sexual Rights Agenda?

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In 2001, Shelby Knox was a 15 year old high school student in Lubbock, Texas. A local charismatic preacher addressed the assembly at her school and preached about the consequences of sex and about how important it was to abstain from sex to prevent pregnancy and STDs.

Knowing that many of the girls in her school were sexually active and pregnant, Shelby was right to feel that her peers needed to know much more than “Just Say No!”

This event and Shelby’s zeal for justice to protect her sexually active peers helped to launch a movement, including her own documentary, which has spread beyond Texas to the nation. She has become a strong advocate for Comprehensive Sex Education and an ardent opponent of Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education.

Most will agree that age appropriate, medically accurate sex education needs to be taught to adolescents and teens, either in school or by their parents. The problem is, who defines these terms? If Comprehensive Sex Education in the schools were truly “age appropriate,” “medically accurate” and “comprehensive,” then we would have no argument with Shelby Knox or anyone else.

However, many so-called “Comprehensive” Sex Education programs are not what they claim to be. Read other blog posts at ExposeSexEdNow.com for information about programs that teach sexual foreplay techniques to adolescents and teens in our public schools.

Shelby was right back in 2001, at least about her own sex ed experience. Most “abstinence-only” sex ed back in 2001 was Mom & Pop, fear and shame-based, “faith-based” sex education, which lacked referenced medically accurate information. Some of these programs are still around today. Until the mid 90’s, many abstinence-only education programs were cobbled together from different sources and presented by well-meaning volunteers with varying degrees of credibility.

That is precisely why in 1996, when President Clinton signed Welfare Reform, that Abstinence Education was strictly defined by Congress (A-H) and all programs were required to comply with rigorous standards in order to qualify for any Title V Abstinence Education funding.

Some of the goals under Welfare Reform were to increase sustainable two parent families and decrease unwed teen pregnancies by promoting Healthy Family Formation. Funding for A-H Abstinence Education was established to change teen sexual behavior by motivating them to delay sex until marriage, become self-sufficient, and then get married before having children.

Not only were the A-H requirements science-based, but all funded programs had to be science-based.  None of the curricula funded could be faith-based. 

In addition, these programs would be required to set aside a specified percent of their funding for independent evaluations that would be conducted over the subsequent decade to determine if they could increase abstinence among vulnerable adolescents and teens and decrease teen pregnancies.

Such federal and state regulation, oversight, and scrutiny has been unprecedented for any funded sex related program in the nation.

So, as much as Shelby Knox, and the Sexual Rights Groups that have apparently radicalized her, want to blame Texas law, then Gov. Bush, and federal funding for Abstinence-only education, Shelby and her peers never received anything close to an A-H funded abstinence education program. All A-H Abstinence Education programs were still in their infancy in 2001.

Plus, since none of these programs are allowed to be faith-based, there is no way that Shelby and her peers were exposed to or hurt by any of the A-H federally funded Abstinence Education programs that she and her new colleagues now seek to deride and defund.

So, while Shelby Knox has every right to complain about her personal sex ed experience when she was 15, she does not have the right to lump together her bad experience with Evidence-based abstinence-until-marriage programs that have been proven effective over the past decade.

We are worried about Shelby, who like so many her age, is being exploited by Sexual Rights Groups to promote sex without consequences and without boundaries; the very opposite intent of Welfare Reform.

Sex Ed is Sexual Rights!

gender_equality_means_more_sexToday’s sex education is not about teaching the next generation the benefits of healthy family formation for the good of society. It is about teaching sexual equality, which means – sex and more sex – at any age – for and with anyone or anything one chooses to have sex. And, if babies or chaotic families result, then there are also “solutions” for that.

Otherwise, the Sex Ed programs pushed by the US HHS/Planned Parenthood/SIECUS Networks would include subjects like marriage, importance of mothers and fathers for children, importance of being selective about who one has sex with, and how sex makes babies and creates a family, whether you like it or not.

Oh! You thought Sex Ed did that?

No! A careful review of most Sex Ed programs used in US schools reveals that marriage, (especially heterosexual, and not even gay marriage) is not mentioned as a valid institution to raise children, the science of reproduction is not taught, and babies and STDs are just an unfortunate consequence of sexual freedom and sexual rights.

Sex Ed is about teaching the pleasures of sex and the Sex Ed programs predominately used are about erasing any memory of the institution of marriage and traditional family. They are not even about “tolerating” straight vs. gay marriage. They are about indoctrinating a generation to “tolerate” anything to do with sex. All sex is equal.

Today’s Sex Ed is about destroying marriage as an institution, because healthy marriages produce self-sufficient families, that have enriched and stabilized American society since its founding.

Remember those days?

Open Letter to State Legislators

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Dear State Legislators in America,

What you do this Spring in your state – no matter how large or small – is very important to stopping the Planned Parenthood/SIECUS/ACLU/Obamacare agendas to teach sexual activity to children.

If you do not know who each of these special interest groups are, then you have homework to do before you pass any laws!

Every motion, every bill, and every amendment pertaining to the sex education of our children will impact the fiscal, social, and physical health of your state.

The social sciences have proven that the more children that are raised apart from their own married mothers and fathers the more they, and your state, will suffer from poverty, disease, sexual and domestic abuse, low graduation rates, unemployment and crime.

Sex outside of marriage, and the chaotic family formation and destruction that results, are growing the welfare state. Until you get a grip and realize this, your state will continue to groan under the weight of entitlements and social misery.

Teaching minors in our taxpayer funded schools how to use condoms, take hormones, and seek abortions is no substitute for teaching them self-control, respect for themselves and others, and the benefits of abstaining from all risky behaviors including sex, drugs, tobacco, alcohol, and violence.

All of these risky behaviors derail our children’s futures. We have laws against underage sales of alcohol and tobacco, and laws against drugs and violence, but there seems to be no way to stop the purveyors of sex from reaching our children, even in the public schools. Children are suppose to be minors protected by the law, yet they are “legally” exposed to explicit sexual education paid for with our tax money.

Why do you think more and more families are pulling their children out of the public schools to either teach them at home or educate them in private or Christian schools? Values and character matter more to living a successful life than knowing math or science.

There is absolutely no way that a state or a nation can survive fiscally when less than half of the population must support the majority of the population. It is just not sustainable. What will you do to fix it?

Your job is to read and study each and every piece of Legislation, seek input from the experts in the field that it would impact, and never pass any legislation that you do not understand or that your gut tells you is questionable.

No matter what you’ve been told, you are not the smartest Legislator on the block. You just got elected! You are but one person in need of wisdom and discernment from God and input from your constituents on both sides of every issue.

Your state needs you to seek real input, not influence, and if you do this you will do a much better job of protecting children from the sexual filth that is already in their schools.

Passing vague ambiguous amendments out of committees just to get them off the docket is foolhardy and shameful. Even if you are not coming back next session, it reflects badly on your character and your ability to serve the people who elected you.

It would be better to stop an amendment that is sponsored by questionable groups and/or that you do not understand than to bow to peer pressure from your so-called colleagues in the room.

Bowing to peer pressure does not show quality character or leadership. How can you expect the children of your district to resist peer pressure, if you cave?

The children and the future of your state can live without another Law, but they cannot survived and thrive under the tyranny of the laws you are responsible for passing.

You are accountable, not only to your constituents, but to the God you say you serve. Do your job well and if you do, then we will thank you.