Parents, Time to Opt-Out?

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By Mary S. McLellan, MS, SRAS ~ Sexual Risk Avoidance Specialist

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While many parents are glad that their kids are back in school, they worry about what their kids will learn.  Will their kids excel in academics and sports? Or, will the Sexual Rights Agenda convince their little girls to become boys?

This year, many states and their school districts across the nation have caved to the US/Planned Parenthood/LGBTQ demands for explicit Sex Ed in all grades. Even Kindergarten students will be taught that gender is fluid and that they can begin the lifelong medical process of transitioning to the opposite gender than they were born. Students will learn that sex is just like brushing teeth; if minors want to engage in sexual activity, they can and should. Sex is a Human Right.

What’s a parent to do?

Find out quickly if your school’s administration pushes the Sexual Rights Agenda. Don’t ignore this. Don’t procrastinate. You must parent your child on sexual issues, or someone else will!

Find Out Your State Law for Sexuality Education Content

What is required in your state or school district? Unfortunately, the information from the US Department of Education is psycho-babble and of little help to parents. For example, Safe Schools – Healthy Schools Initiatives sound really great until one finds out that they are obsessed with promoting sexual deviancy and normalizing sex.

Each state has a Sex Ed Law that should govern what can and cannot be taught in publicly funded education. Often, the Law and the policies conflict, because SexPerts in the system subvert the Law. Find out what the Law is and compare it to your school district’s policies. Law should take precedence over policies.

The best source for information about the LGBTQ/Sex Ed Agenda is found on their advocates’ own websites. LGBTQ/Sex Ed advocates work nonstop to overturn Laws and policies at every level of government and they are very proud of their success. Guttmacher Institute promotes “research” to only support explicit sexuality content aimed at your child. SIECUS (Sexuality Information Education Council of the US) promotes sexually explicit Sex Ed programs and the LGBTQ lifestyle to school districts under the guise of anti-bullying. Both Guttmacher and SIECUS are spinoffs of Planned Parenthood, the largest purveyor of LGBTQ/Sex Ed in the nation. Hundreds of other surrogates may be found at the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education.

Promoting sex to your children is their Bread & Butter!

Parents can find out the type of Sex Ed allowed/not allowed in their state using the following links.

Guttmacher provides information about parental notification, consent, or Opting-Out. If Sex Ed is taught in your state, find out if teaching about contraception, abstinence, importance of sex only within marriage, sexual orientation, negative outcomes of teen sex, and/or Life Skills are required. If HIV education is mandated, information is available about whether condoms and/or abstinence must be included.

The SIECUS link provides progress updates and future goals on sexual issues in your particular state and legislation in the works.

Read Those Notification and Consent Forms!

By now, parents should have received a stack of papers from their school to read and sign. If not, check your child’s backpack! Read the papers carefully. Some schools may only reveal that your child will receive Sex Ed this year. They may have a fancy name for the program and never tell you the title of the actual curricula used to indoctrinate your child into the world of sexual lifestyles.

Other schools may wait until closer to the time sex classes begin to notify parents. This means that parents only have a week or two to look into the Sex Ed provided and make a decision. This popular tactic puts peer pressure on the parents to just let their child attend the classes to avoid “embarrassment” or “offending” the teacher or school.

Be sure to check the Guttmacher link (above) to find out about the “role of parents.” Most states are only required to notify parents that students will receive sex ed during the school year. They may not need your consent at all. This is how millions of kids are indoctrinated every year.

What Type of Sex Ed Is Taught?

It is important to find out the type of Sex Ed in your school. The information from your school district may be intentionally vague and confusing. Ask to see all curricula including posters, videos, teacher manuals, etc. There should be no hesitation by the administration to show these programs to parents. At the same time, many schools would rather parents Opt-Out than know what is really in the curricula!

Sexual Risk Reduction – Does your school district teach Sexual Risk Reduction (SRR) education? SRR is the same as Comprehensive Sexuality Education (CSE) and might include a statement or two that abstaining from sexual activity is the only 100% way to avoid pregnancy and STDs. The remaining content in the curricula is about so-called ‘safe sex’ or ‘protected sex.’

Parents beware…Don’t be duped by Sex Ed programs claiming that they are “Abstinence-based” or have an “Abstinence-Approach.” These programs usually spend less than 5% of their content on abstinence and 95% on promoting reasons to have so-called “safe sex.” Many school districts, teachers, and parents are deceived by this type of marketing.

CSE/SRR education cannot claim to prevent pregnancies and STDs, because it does not discourage sex. SRR might reduce the risks. CSE/SRR programs normalize LGBTQ and transgender lifestyles. Check to see if your school provides any of the CSE/SRR programs, (except for Heritage Keepers® Abstinence Education,) on this Teen Pregnancy Prevention Programs list.  If you find a program on this list, check out the research to see if the program even worked to increase condom/contraception use, reduce number of partners, and/or reduced frequency of sex. How long did their results last? Was there any effect at the end of the program? How many studies were done and what were the sample sizes? Was the program evaluated in a school setting or in a community/after school setting? You may be shocked at what you learn.

Sexual Risk Avoidance – Some states mandate or at least allow schools to offer a separate course on Sexual Risk Avoidance (SRA) or Abstinence Education. SRA/Abstinence Education is a public health approach that advocates teaching all students, regardless of sexual history or sexual orientation, the benefits of abstinence, the life skills to avoid sexual risks, and how to plan for their future.

If your school district says that they offer a proven-effective SRA/Abstinence Education curricula, it should be on this Authentic SRA Curricula list. Any SRA/Abstinence Education offered must be taught as a separate course! Otherwise, the medically accurate information and life skills contained will be obscured by the illicit content in CSE/SRR programs intended to entice kids to have sex. Mixed messages do not work for kids!

ExposeSexEdNow ONLY supports the SRA/Abstinence Education Approach. And, Heritage Keepers® is the only Abstinence-Outside-Of-Marriage curricula on both the Teen Pregnancy Prevention Program and the Authentic SRA Curricula sites. This program should be welcomed in all public schools!

After one year, Heritage Keepers® Abstinence Education students

initiated sexual activity at a rate that is 67% lower than students not receiving the program.

 

Write an Opt-Out Letter, Today!

If SRA/Abstinence Education is not allowed in your school, parents must resist the pressure to conform to the LGBTQ/Sexual Rights Agenda. Seriously consider Opting-Out of all Sex Ed in that school!

Write a standard Opt-Out letter each year. This letter specifies what you, the parent/legal guardian, will allow and/or not allow regarding sexual content taught to your child. Get other parents in the school to do the same. The more parents that will Opt-Out of CSE/SRR education, and all sexually explicit content in any course, the safer your child will be.

Opt-out letters can be as simple or detailed as you want. Some excellent examples of opt-out letters can be found at these sites:

Experience has taught us that Opt-Out letters need to include the following to be effective:

  • Ask for a written response by a defined date indicating that the administration received and agrees to your requests
  • Address your letter to the Superintendent and copy all members of the School Board and principal
  • Send letters by registered mail so that you have a signed confirmation that it was received
  • Keep a dated and signed copy each year

If all else fails to reveal the true intent of your school’s administration, ask to sit in on Sex Ed classes BEFORE you will allow your child to participate. Don’t let anyone tell you that they are the experts and “not to worry!”

If your school’s administration “drank the LGBTQ/Transgender Kool-Aid,” you may need to seriously consider Opting-Out of all public schools in your state.

It is up to you to protect your children.

No one cares more about your children than you do!

No one!

 

 

STD Germ Pool: A Public Health Crisis

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Mary S. McLellan, M.S., SRAS ~ ExposeSexEdNow.com

 

ARCpoint-Labs-CDC-Reports-2012-STD-Rates-on-the-RiseThe CDC reports that cases of Chlamydia and Syphilis are at all-time highs, especially among the LGBTQ and Sexual Rights populations. Even worse, the presence of any STD increases the susceptibility for other STDs, including HIV.

The STD Germ Pool expands.

Meanwhile, the CDC, US Health and Human Services and US Department of Education continue to fund and promote LGBTQ and Sexual Rights groups and causes. So, taxpayer funding is used by LGBTQ and Sexual Rights groups to force taxpayers to condone, endorse, normalize, subsidize, and institutionalize unhealthy lifestyle choices that can only lead to more STDs, misery, and chaos.

This is government cronyism.

To allow the LGBTQ and Sexual Rights Agenda precedence in our society defies proven successful public health policies. Less than 4% of the US adult population self-identify as LGBTQ and only .3% self-identify as transgender. Why does this very tiny percentage of our population get to set policies and influence laws that can and do negatively affect over 96% of others? Good public health policies are meant to communicate optimal health and safety standards for the masses.

Does this mean that the CDC seeks to convert us all into LGBTQ and Sexual Rights advocates?

Are taxpayers expected to just shut up and pay up?

 Apparently, yes. This is tyranny, not a democracy!

The CDC’s stated public health policy on preventing STDs is “the most reliable way to avoid STDs is to abstain from all sexual activity or be in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship with an uninfected partner.”

Contrary to their policy, the CDC operates a double standard when it pertains to sexual rights. Any other health and safety risks, such as alcohol, tobacco, drugs, and violence require strict avoidance policies, not indulgences. The CDC would never provide liquor, cigarettes, heroin, and guns for the masses, yet they promote sexual behaviors to the masses through public education.

The CDC and other agencies endorse and fund Comprehensive Sex Ed (CSE) programs that teach minors how to engage in sexual behaviors. Many school districts across the US are forced through regulations, funding, and intimidation to only use CSE programs that fail to teach the skills to avoid sexual activity.

CSE is based on Kinsey’s fraudulent and discredited “science and was never intended to prevent sexual activity. The primary goal has always been to promote sexual rights. According to Kinsey, humans are sexual from birth, therefore, CSE programs teach that sexual activity is healthy, normal, and expected from birth. Public health and safety are secondary if considered at all.

Every trick is played to get CSE/Kinsey’s sex ideology taught to your child from K4-12th grade and throughout society. Some programs are disguised as Sexual Abuse Prevention, Anti-bullying, Human Sexuality, Safe and Healthy Schools, Family Life, and/or STD and Pregnancy Prevention. All are modeled after Kinsey and his pedophiles’ sexual abuse of infants and children.

Without dispute, the earlier that children and teens begin participating in sexual activity, the more lifetime sex partners they will have. The expected results are more STDs, pregnancies, abortions, and failed relationships leading to more dependency on welfare programs. This racket is about money and power at the expense of countless victims.

The government finances LGBTQ and Sexual Rights groups, as well as, a flourishing sex industry. They, in turn, produce a never ending supply of customers involved in sexual abuse, sex trafficking, prostitution, and pornography, who seek health services for STDs, contraception, and abortions. And, so it goes… on and on…

Optimal public health for the masses must be the primary focus of any sexual rights debate.The masses should not be bullied into submission by a minute minority, especially when their sexual behaviors endanger the public’s health and safety.

That’s why it’s called “public health.”

Sex Slavery expands in Georgia

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Mary S. McLellan, M.S., SRAS ~ ExposeSexEdNow.com

 

Sex Trafficking in GA Georgia is well known for having a human sex trafficking epidemic. Sex trafficking in Atlanta and other hot spots in Georgia have been reported for years and it’s only getting worse. So, why are children and families in Georgia so vulnerable to sex trafficking?

To make matters worse, recently Gov. Deal (R) caved to economic tyranny imposed by the Human Rights Campaign’s (HRC).HRC is one of the main proponents of normalizing sex for minors in the nation. As a result of HRC’s bully tactics, religious leaders must now marry couples against their church’s doctrine, thus promoting sexual practices that violate religious liberty guaranteed by the GA and US  Constitution.

The HRC is a member of the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education and author of the so-called  federal Healthy Youth Act. Their goal is to mandate Comprehensive Sex Education (Sexual Rights-only) in all public schools. One method of achieving this goal is to make it illegal in Georgia to teach students the benefits of delaying sexual activity and the importance of marriage for raising healthy families. California has already passed such legislation.

FLASH is a sex program listed on Planned Parenthood’s website and the primary source of sexual health information for students in DeKalb County schools in metro-Atlanta. FLASH curricula has been used for years in Seattle and Kings County, Washington throughout elementary, middle, and high schools. FLASH normalizes sexual activity among and with minors.

FLASH sex classes are required to be co-ed so that students can learn to feel comfortable talking about sex with their friends. Teachers are trained to “norm” the classroom so that students feel safe asking  questions and students are told not to talk about content or discussions outside of the classroom. “Family” is defined without including a traditional family model.

A review of FLASH videos and information for teachers reveals that minors, who cannot legally consent to sex, learn about the following subject matter:

  • LGBT Youth: Reteaching Gender & Sexuality

    • This film won awards from Gay and Lesbian film festivals in San Francisco, Seattle, London, and Rio.

    • It normalizes gay, lesbian, transgender relationships – everyone is queer. If you are not queer, you are the odd one.

  • STD Prevention: STD Myths from SexEtc.org, a project of Answer at Rutgers University (YouTube.)

    • While this film has some medically accurate information about STDs, it promotes sexual activity as normal among and with minors.

    • STDs are either treatable or manageable.

    • Condoms and dental dams are the “best protection,” if not practicing abstinence. However, abstinence is not recommended as the best sexual health option nor is it presented as the norm for teens, which CDC data supports.

    • SexEtc.org/Answer is funded by the US Health and Human Services Maternal and Child Health, an author of the National Sexuality Education Standards, and a member of the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education. All of these entities promote sexual activity.

  • HIV-Focus on Testing: Sexual Health

    • This film depicts sex acts among and with minors using comic book style storytelling.

    • Contains foul and coarse language. Portrays parents as idiots.

  • HIV-Focus on Communication, only for 12th grade: Your Body. Your Rules

    • Normalizes sex among and with minors.

    • Teaches that assertiveness is good, but only if you are demanding condom use.

    • Girl says that she only has one rule for having sex: Use a condom.

  • Talking with Partners About Prevention: Just Like You Imagined?

    • Normalizes sex among and with minors.

    • Portrays normal life of a teen as chaotic.

None of the content we found in FLASH curricula teaches minors the benefits of avoiding risky sexual behavior. FLASH violates basic public health policies by normalizing sexual activity that has long-term health consequences for the general public. FLASH also undermines the authority of parents by portraying them as ignorant, out of touch with reality, and incapable to providing wise guidance to their children.

By normalizing child sex in public education, adolescents and teens are groomed to accept and engage in sex. This makes them most vulnerable to pedophiles, sex traffickers, and pornographers. Georgia is conducting state sponsored sexual exploitation of minors and no one seems to care.

Georgia now owns your children, their education, their faith, and their future. Under the guise of Sexual Rights, your children are now sex slaves to the state.

 

So-called War on Women

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Mary S. McLellan, M.S., SRAS ~ ExposeSexEdNow.com

No, we don’t punish women who have had or will have abortions. We never have.

That is why Pregnancy Care Centers should be supported. They care for the woman and the baby, and stay connected for as long as necessary. Women, who decide to carry their babies, find out how amazingly strong and beautiful they really are.

And, they are grateful for life-affirming options.

The real problem with abortion is it fails women. The entire Reproductive Rights Movement tells women they cannot control their own bodies. If they are not sexually active, use contraception, and have abortions then they are just not as valuable, independent, and free as a man.

The real War on Women creates victims, increases dependence on welfare, and enslaves women and their children to more and more so-called reproductive health services.

That is not freedom.

Public Health Crisis: Porn in Sex Ed

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Mary S. McLellan, M.S., SRAS ~ ExposeSexEdNow.com

endsexualexploitation cycle diagramUtah legislators have connected the dots between porn in our culture and porn content in many taxpayer funded Comprehensive Sex Ed programs (CSE). This week, they had the audacity to pass a resolution (75-0) that pornography is a public health crisis. The resolution is ready for the Governor to sign. Earlier in the session the legislature defeated a bill to expand Comprehensive Sex Education (CSE). Someone is seeing the connections, at least in Utah!

What is porn? There are more sophisticated legal definitions, but porn is essentially any sexually stimulating visual, audible, or written content that promotes sex-without-boundaries. In too many CSE curricula, sex-without-boundaries is taught as normal and expected, while the healthiest boundaries for sexual activity are censored. Boundaries such as abstaining from all sexual activity outside of marriage, regardless of sexual orientation, are not mentioned.

When couples are bonded to each other for life, as in a healthy marriage, there is the expectation of goodwill towards each other and any children they may raise together.

ExposeSexEdNow exposes CSE that encourages students to explore their sexuality regardless of health risks or life-long consequences. Even for minors, who are legally incapable of consenting to sex, so-called “consent” is taught as the only requirement for sexual activity. Some CSE contains “how-to sex lessons” so that students as young as 11 years old can “have pleasurable and safe sexual experiences.” Under the guise of pregnancy and STD prevention some CSE teach the “skills” to make condoms, dental dams, and lots of lube “fun and pleasurable.”

Some CSE curricula introduce and/or reinforce sexual activity as healthy behavior. Yet, adolescent brain research clearly shows that sexually stimulating information during adolescence and teen years is neurologically dangerous and can lead to porn addiction.

The average age for porn addiction in both boys and girls is 12 years old!

Pornography is dangerous both in its use and abuse of women and children. Alfred Kinsey used porn sex to abuse babies, toddlers and children for so-called “scientific research.” Kinsey’s fraudulent “research” has been debunked, but continues to produce an industry of “credentialed” SexPerts, who are hell bent on mandating their hedonistic ideology throughout our government, schools and churches.

Any means of sexual exploitation should be prosecuted by our legal systems, but it is not. The 2016 Dirty Dozen list of top contributors of porn reveals rampant disregard for our children.

  • The US Department of Justice “refuses to enforce existing federal obscenity laws!”
    • “From the time Obama took office in 2008, no enforcement actions against illegal obscenity have been initiated by DOJ, and in 2011 former Attorney General Eric Holder dismantled the Obscenity Prosecution Task Force.”
    • Peddlers of obscenity and porn have had a green light from the feds for over 7 years! Add to that the millions of dollars funded to CSE and it is no wonder that the Sexual Rights Agenda is targeting our children at warp speed.
    • Nearly all states exempt primary and secondary schools from Obscenity Laws. That’s right! Most primary and secondary schools cannot get into legal trouble for obscenity that would land any of us in jail.
  • Another top contributor of porn is the American Library Association.
    • The ALA steadfastly refuses to put filters on computers to prevent clients from viewing porn, even child porn. Aren’t public libraries supported with our tax money?
    • Plus, many state schools and their libraries have weak, unclear, or non-existent filtering statutes for obscenity. What about computers and iPads in your child’s school?
    • Beware letting your kids roam free in the library! Not only are libraries safe havens for pedophiles, but many libraries have sexuality resources from organizations supportive of CSE in the pre-teen and teen sections of the library.
    • Yet, these same libraries censor information about the benefits of marriage or delaying sexual activity until marriage. 

Our pornified culture has crippled America. Chaotic family formation, disease, and social misery fill our streets, homes, and public school systems. It is intentional, leading generations into lives of poverty. In 2011, Greg Pfundstein’s Sex Ed Mandates and Children’s Innocence cited Reducing the Risks, a popular CSE curricula used in middle and high schools as based on ideology, not medically accurate information.

Pornography should be addressed as a public health crisis much like tobacco, alcohol and drugs. A public health approach requires a multifaceted campaign to eliminate the sources and behaviors (risks) related to porn, which in turn will greatly reduce the availability and consequences. Fifty-years ago, few thought that smoking could be drastically reduced, but is has been.

Parents, and most reasonable adults, know in their gut that something is terribly wrong. We daily hear of sexual exploitation, porn, and sexual rights demands. When the safety of our children is openly jeopardized, what can good parents do? We cannot sit still while our children are indoctrinated to think that sexual activities are normal fun entertainment. We cannot let them be groomed for “consensual sex.”

More states should follow Utah’s example and resolve to call pornography a public health crisis. We must expose and prosecute sexual exploitation, wherever it is.

Sexual Rights Agenda: Confuse the Masses

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by Mary McLellan and Robert Swain

Sexual Rights Advocates claim victory for the lowest teen birth rates in decades. But, why are the rates at an all-time low? Is it really due to “safe sex” education in the schools and the push to get all girls on birth control?

Or, are teens making better decisions and refusing to engage in sex, so that they can focus on their future?

It is laughable that Sexual Rights Advocates claim responsibility for the majority of teens delaying sex! Their programs do not teach Sexual Risk Avoidance (SRA) skills to abstain from sex. In fact, most of their sex programs teach Sexual Risk Reduction (SRR) skills to “avoid unprotected sex” and “to enjoy the pleasures of “safe sex.”

How can teens focus on their future in such a sexually charged climate?

The goal of the Sexual Rights Agenda is to confuse the uninformed public. They do this by masking the content of most sex programs, keeping the media hype going, and demanding that hundreds of millions of taxpayer dollars continue to flow in their direction.

It is true that teen pregnancy and birth rates are at their lowest in decades. Yet, the Sex Cartels demand that “more taxpayer money is needed, state laws must be changed, and more must be done, because one unplanned pregnancy is just too many.”

This false narrative convinces school districts and legislators that only SRR (“safe sex”) programs will work, because “all teens will have sex.” These programs are pushed by the Sex Cartels, including Planned Parenthood, SIECUS, LGBTQ, Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, Advocates for Youth, and the CDC.

However, if one really looks at the data a different narrative emerges. In South Carolina (SC), SRR advocates receive millions in taxpayer dollars annually to expand into more and more schools. And, they claim that they are responsible for the dramatic 68% decrease in pregnancy rates for teens (15-17) and 80% decrease for adolescents (10-14). (SC DHEC 2015)

This decline is not a phenomenon, but consistent with national trends. Plus, the CDC’s YRBS (Youth Risk Behavior Survey) for SC reveals that for almost 20-years, most sexually experienced teens have NOT used contraception. They are not practicing “safe-sex.” There has been a:

  •  26% increase (2005-2013) in teens who did not use a condom during last sexual intercourse.
  • 83% of girls did not use birth control pills to prevent pregnancy before last sexual intercourse. (UNCHANGED since 1995)
  • 97% of girls did not use an IUD before last sexual intercourse.

The SC YRBS also reveals that only 32% of high school teens were sexually active at the time of the survey. In addition, there was a:

  • 28% decrease in high school teens who have EVER had sex. (1995-2013)
  • 49% decrease in 9th grade teens who have EVER had sex. (1995-2013)
  • 30% decrease in high school teens who are sexually active. (1995-2013)

In other words, over the past 18 years:

  • Sexually active SC high school teens have not been practicing “safe-sex.” (SRR education has failed in SC for decades and  they don’t want you to know it!)
  • The majority of SC high school teens were not having sex and/or have NEVER had sex!
  • The percentage of sexually experienced high school teens has decreased steadily since 1995.

Most SC students are not duped by the “all teens are having sex, so you better protect yourself” mantras that are chanted in sex classes. Rather, smart teens embrace the SRA (abstinence) messages promoted by their parents, churches, and agencies that teach Evidence-based Abstinence Education.

Teens will live up to high standards! So, we should set high standards for them and for ourselves.

Such progress bodes well for SC, but only if the current trend continues. SRA (abstinence) should be taught as a separate component for all school age children. To omit this vital perspective from schools is censorship.

 

“Safe Sex” education sets our kids up for failure and it defeats the purpose of quality education.

 

 

Making Proud Choices!…Still a Problem for Parents

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By Debbie Jones – Charleston, South Carolina

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Revised version of Making Proud Choices! in Charleston, SC. Page 87

Making Proud Choices! is still under consideration by the Charleston County School District for middle and high school. Over the summer, a group of parents reviewed the revised Making Proud Choices! to determine if there was anything of concern contained in it. 

Public protests forced the proponents of Making Proud Choices! to “sanitize” the Facilitator Manual of some content that parents found vulgar and offensive. While we are sure they did their best, the parents found that the messaging remains the same in the revised version. The DVDs, posters, activities, and student workbooks, and handouts, which will also be used, were not edited and remain the same. 

The parents conclude that Making Proud Choices! is still unacceptable, and even harmful for students. It is the mindset of the authors, proponents, and teachers, who would tell these things to our children that bothers us the most.

WHO thinks that teaching sexual foreplay to adolescents and teens is a smart way to prevent pregnancies and disease?

“Abstinence” should never be taught as “avoiding unprotected sex.”

Any information about sex should stick to the facts as the SC Law instructs. Making Proud Choices! violates the Law by not teaching abstinence from all sexual activity, does not emphasize abstinence until marriage, does not teach the benefits of marriage, and does not inform students about the risks and limitations of contraception.  

Following are some of the comments from parents about their findings:  

  • The lessons are designed to be interactive…Imagine self-conscious adolescents and teens participating in these activities:

    • One lesson has students talking one-on-one to brainstorm endings to these kinds of sentences. “A person can make condoms less awkward by…”

    • In one lesson students have to stand under a sign that says if they agree or disagree about attitude statements such as, “Abstinence is an easy choice to make” and “It would be easy to talk about contraception with my friends including boyfriend/girlfriend.”  What kinds of message does this send to peers?

    • Students brainstorm the names of condom brands and are taught about types and flavors of condoms, including condoms designed for little boys called Easy Rider. (page 87)

    • During the condom practice demonstrations where condoms, lubrication and a penis model are provided to each student pair, the facilitator is supposed to say, “Some religions and individuals do not believe in using condoms. Your beliefs will become an important part of your decision making.” (page 86) Teen sex and how sex and reproduction are  taught is a public health issue, not just a religious issue. 

    • The condom use activities break down natural inhibitions that children have at their age regarding sexual activity. Facilitator note, “There may be lots of giggling and nervous behavior. The participants will have lots of fun.” (page 90)

  • Overall, it [Making Proud Choices! revised version] still just pays lip-service to abstinence.

    • “Marriage” was only mentioned once. “At some point most people transition from abstinence to being sexually active…” [as in marriage] (page 42) This is not true. According to the CDC, most students surveyed nationally (17 and under) have not had sex. Why tell 11-17 year old students that most of their peers will have sex, except to normalize it? 

    • Making Proud Choices! glorifies condom use. One scenario had a girl saying, “I’m glad you agreed to use condoms. I feel like you really care about me.” (page 178)

    • In the lesson on negotiating and refusing sex when you don’t have a condom, one acceptable response was, “Let’s go buy some condoms right now.” None of the responses considered recommitting to abstinence. (page 180)

    • It normalizes sexual behavior for young teens. The Facilitator’s guide discusses the scenario of two 14 year-olds who have been dating for a year and both want to have sex. The ultimate solution is condoms and “Safe Sex.” (page 122) Why are they not told that they are minors incapable of legally consenting to sex with anyone

    • It redefines “intimacy” as just sex. A note to the facilitator says, “Main points to cover: Other things can lead to intimacy and orgasm without risking getting pregnant or infected with an STD or HIV.” (page 124) Sex affects the whole person and should be much more than keeping the genitals safe. 

    • Making Proud Choices! is just a sex program for minors and teens. It teaches how to have sex and how to have protected sex with condoms. It is not about reproduction or how to form a family within marriage. (pages 2, 4, 10, 60-66)

    • Where is the research to support the following statement? Adolescents “struggle with issues of self-esteem, and self-pride. Due to this, it is extremely important that they learn to feel good about themselves and their decision to practice safe sex.” (pages 13, 81 #10)

    • Making Proud Choices! in no way teaches teens the skills to say no to sex, only how to say no to “unprotected sex.” And, it fails to teach students that condoms are not 100% protective. Students should be reminded about this often throughout the course.

    • It fails to teach students that some STDs do not have symptoms. It states that anyone can get STDs, and that condoms are the only way to prevent the transmission of STDs. That is medically inaccurate information. What about abstinence? Students who abstain do not get STDs and several STDs are spread outside the protection of a condom. (pages 73-77)

    • Sexually active teens are not encouraged to return to an abstinent lifestyle. It is assumed that sexually active teens will continue having sex.

    • Redefines what it means to be “Proud and Responsible” within a sexual context, regardless of the values they have learned from their parents. Rationale: “The emphasis on being proud and responsible provides motivation for engaging in health-protective behavior and for encouraging others to do the same.” (page 40)

    • It teaches students to always use condoms when having vaginal, oral, and anal sex. This assumes they will have vaginal, oral and anal sex. Adolescents are concrete in their thinking and take instruction at face value. Therefore, this is not age appropriate. It also normalizes all types of sexual acts.

    • Students are not taught that infatuation and/or sexual activity can affect their judgment. Yet, during the condom lessons they are told, “Refrain from using alcohol or other drugs because they affect your judgment.” (page 92)

    • In the lesson on Risk Behaviors for HIV, students are taught Green Light, Yellow Light, and Red Light activities. The lesson is about HIV transmission, but is that what teens will remember? The immaturity and impulsiveness of adolescents and teens is not considered when labeling sexual behaviors as Yellow Lights. Many teens will take the challenge, take the hit, and might think that these activities are what they can “get away with.” Yellow Light activities are:

      • “Touching your partner’s body parts”

      • “Vaginal sex using a condom”

      • “Oral sex on a female using a dental dam or condom” and

      • “Having sex with only one partner using a condom.” (page 108)

  • In the activity “Condoms are the Proud and Responsible Thing to Do!” students are told that:

    • “If you use condoms, it will be easier to reach your goals and dreams” “You will feel better about yourself (higher self-esteem)” and “You can do more for your family and community.” (page 150) Where is the research to support this? 

    • Students are also told that “Condoms don’t have to be embarrassing if…You have a supply of them ready to use.” (page 150-153)  

    • This lesson is one that was “cleaned up” by the proponents. It use to be called, “How To Make Condoms Fun and Pleasurable!” The verbiage about how condoms can be used as a method of foreplay, sexual fantasy, sexy/sensual, teasing, hiding condoms on your body, and how condoms make erections last longer have been removed. The intent of the revised lesson is the same.

  • None of the material as presented in the videos is age appropriate in my estimation. There seemed to be a nominal suggestion of abstinence, and then immediate reference back to the use of condoms. There was nothing about abstinence until marriage.

    • One of the DVDs to be shown in class describes how to use condoms during sex, by talking about the female’s role, sexual arousal, rolling condom on, intercourse, orgasm, holding onto the rim, removing the condom and relaxation. Videos (visual images) will be remembered longer than words.

    • Another DVD called “Nicole’s Choice” was difficult for me to watch. The video opens and closes with scenes of heavy foreplay and intercourse. There is talk about having unprotected sex. Nicole now wants her partner to use a condom. Another scene shows Nicole at a doctor visit. The doctor talks about STDs, including HPV, prior to the exam. Nicole finds out that she has an STD from a previous boyfriend. Her girlfriend shuns her only to find out that she, too, had sex with that same boy and is infected as well. There is talk about how condoms can be fun by using different kinds of condoms. Abstinence is mentioned at the end, but there seems to be laughing and mocking about it. Then more talk about the pleasures of condoms, putting them on, lubricating, etc. Contracting an STD is no longer the problem. The problem to be solved becomes making sex with condoms fun, so that they will be used. If HPV is the STD contracted, nothing is said about HPV being transmitted skin-to-skin outside of the protection of a condom. Condoms do not make sex 100% safe.

    • A DVD called “Wrap It Up” Teen Condom Use…” revolves around a boy not wanting to use a condom. He says he will protect his partner by “pulling out.” His partner encourages him salaciously by talking about types, colors, flavors of condoms, putting them on, etc. There really is no talk about abstinence as to what it really is, the healthiest choice, but is spoken of by the girl as a THREAT, if the condom is not used. This was terribly disturbing to me.

The revised version of Making Proud Choices! is still unacceptable. It sends unhealthy, even dangerous messages to adolescents and teens about the appropriateness of sexual activity at their age and outside of marriage.

Making Proud Choices! omits “medically accurate information” about the risks and side effects of hormonal contraception and the limitations of condoms. It censors healthy messages such as abstinence and marriage, and promotes sensuality. It teaches immature students how to reach orgasm by using condoms, as part of STD prevention, and it gives students false assurances that if they use condoms, they will have a happy future. Where is the research to support that?

If academic achievement is the goal of our schools, how can students learn anything when the school and students’ minds are saturated with sexual information?

If this concerns you, as it did the parents who spent hours reviewing the revised edition of Making Proud Choices!, contact your School Board Trustees. Consider sending these comments to the Trustees.

Our children deserve better.