Is Marriage Still Legal in the U.S.?

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by Mary S. McLellan, MS, SRAS – Sexual Risk Avoidance Specialist

married-familyI thought marriage was still legal in the U.S. It seems the only kind of marriage that is legal and talked about anymore is Same Sex Marriage. What about Heterosexual Marriage? You know, the kind that has been proven the best method of family formation for children and adults for centuries?

Did you know that Heterophobia is a thing? It is the “fear of straight people.” The dictionary states that “it is an irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against heterosexual people.”

In many states, marriage was taken out of Health Education Standards eight years ago. Is it any wonder that kids grow up thinking that relationships and heterosexual marriage don’t matter? That it is normal and expected for them to have serial sexual relationships and babies by different parents throughout their lives?

Aren’t you sick of all the phobias? Following the Golden Rule would solve a lot of civility issues in our culture.

What about the children? Finally, someone cuts through the noise and focuses on the rights of children. Margaret Somerville, a professor of Bioethics in the School of Medicine at The University of Notre Dame Australia, writes in It’s about children’s rights, not sexual orientation,

“But when, as in same-sex marriage, we are faced with a conflict between children’s rights and adults’ claims, ethically we should choose in favour of the weakest, most in need, most vulnerable persons. That means choosing what is best for children.”

If this is true, why is it that traditional Heterosexual Marriage cannot be discussed in public schools? If children fare best on all social indicators when raised by their own two marriage biological parents, then why not teach about heterosexual marriage in Health Classes or Sex Ed? Why is it censored?

Is it any wonder that the U.S. ranks as a third world country on many social indicators?

We need to get back to the basics of building strong families. Jobs, civility, and national security matter, but the U.S. is fundamentally broken because of a disregard for marriage.

Heterosexual Marriage, that is.

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Sex Ed Racists and Bigots

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People raised with strong beliefs about certain classes of people, faiths, income or education levels, intelligence, lifestyles, knowledge or ideologies, find it difficult to tolerate other beliefs. Neural pathways develop during early years making it easier to think, accept and act based on their own perspectives.

 

Unless something dramatic happens in their lives, this is their world and life view.

Many Black and White parents in the South taught their children “to not judge others by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.” Thanks to Dr. King, we saw results from those efforts in Charleston, SC after the tragic slaughter of nine faith leaders at Mother Emanuel AME Church. Much of Charleston’s response was based on looking beyond color to the content of character and understanding that it is the inside of a person that causes evil, not the outside.

Racism and bigotry are learned behaviors.

There is another, more insidious type of racism and bigotry doing great harm to all people and their families. That is the bigotry of low expectations, especially regarding sexual behavior. Planned Parenthood, SIECUS, and other Sexual Rights Bigots have targeted children for over 30 years through Comprehensive Health Education. These racists and bigots have specifically targeted Black, and other minority, children by using them to “test” sex programs and then by herding them into those sex programs through public schools.

For decades, these sex programs have taught that most kids their age are having sex, which is a lie, and that they have a right to experience sexual pleasures regardless of the consequences. (Kinsey Sex) As a result, millions suffer and are enslaved to a Master – the Government.

No one escapes this enslavement. Either you are forced to pay for welfare entitlements with your taxes or you must subsist on them. Many do both. Unless new generations learn the life-script for success and self-sufficiency, there will be nothing, but further social decline for our children and grandchildren.

There is simply not enough money in the world to support a welfare system that has more dependents than those paying into it.

Change is not easy. The majority of adults – who have never known a day without birth control, abortion, and STDs and have no idea how to form healthy relationships or make marriages work – are raising children to do the same. Not only are their brains wired, their children’s teachers, also groomed, normalize sex acts as entertainment. Sex is just sex. They cannot imagine a world where sex is meant for life-long marriage, intimacy, and procreation or where healthy married families thrive.

Their world is a complex mix of chaotic families, single parents, divorce, STDs, abortion, infertility, porn, sex trafficking, lack of job skills, poverty, domestic and sexual abuse, life-long dependency on welfare, depression and addictions, and more and more indulgence in sex acts as entertainment to escape their dire reality.

Many so-called “safe sex” programs do not teach children about puberty, conception, or reproduction. And, none teach your child about abstinence until marriage or about the benefits of marriage. They use pregnancy and STD prevention to teach sex acts (tricks), grooming the masses for self-destruction.

The proven, ideal life-script for centuries has been censored in public schools for decades. The benefits of marriage and delaying sex until marriage are barred topics from health and sex classes. Even now that Same Sex Marriage has been legalized in the U.S., these subjects are censored! (This proves that much of the Same Sex Marriage Movement is/was about sexual freedoms, not about so-called equal rights or about family.) Students are not taught how sex leads to pregnancies and babies, and therefore when pregnancies occur, they demand that the baby be eliminated. “I didn’t sign up for this! All I wanted was great sex!” Cohabitation and hook-ups are presented as normal, expected, healthy lifestyle choices, regardless of the impact on children.

There is institutional racism and bigotry within our government and academic bureaucracies to transform all people into sexually dependent minions. This is a bi-partisan issue! Both Republican and Democrat leaders have promoted this agenda in our schools and state agencies since the early 60’s. Federal funding will only pay for the implementation of Planned Parenthood Sex Programs in school districts, eliminating quality Evidence-based Abstinence Until Marriage Education programs from consideration. As a result, Sexperts teach vulnerable adolescents and teens how to perform “fun and pleasurable” sex acts to fit the Planned Parenthood/Sexual Rights narrative that “all teens will have sex,” thus leading them down the dark path towards chaos and welfare dependency.

These racists and bigots discriminate against entire classes of people, based on race, gender, and religion, to push their new world order. They target the most vulnerable when their brains are experiencing rapid growth.

The only solution is for parents to take responsibility for teaching their own children about sex, reproduction, and marriage.

Parents need to opt out (Sample from Defend the Family or write your own) of all classes or programs teaching sexual information and/or that refuse to teach about delaying all sexual activity until marriage, and the benefits of marriage. If the schools will not allow you to sit in on all of the sex classes for your child and allow you to view all DVDs, workbooks, and teacher manuals of a sex program, then we recommend that you opt out. Please, do not blindly turn your child over to the state. You have options.

Parents and their kids can sign up for Evidence-based classes in the community. And, faith leaders can be trained to teach science-based, medically accurate lessons consistent with their faith.

Tell your schools to teach Johnny and Susie to read, write and do math, and leave the sex information to you, the parents! 

Parents looking for help: Sex, Lies and Hook Ups. A Parent’s Guide for Fighting Back

 

 

Parents, take the “Predictors of Sexual Risks” Survey!

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The Sexual Rights Networks do not want you to know that there is an Evidence-based Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education curriculum approved for Teen Pregnancy Prevention and listed on the US Health and Human Services website.

Heritage Keepers is celebrating their 20th Anniversary! The following is reprinted with permission from the Healthy Family Formation Coalition, a social media component of Heritage Community Services:

 Parents, take the “Predictors of Sexual Risks” Survey!

Is your pre-teen/teen at risk for sexual activity, pornography, unhealthy relationships, and/or dangerous liaisons?

 Do they lack goals for the future and feel like they have few options?

Check all of the following behaviors that your adolescent/teen exhibits. 

My adolescent/teen: 

  1. Hangs-out with kids who drink alcohol, use drugs or tobacco.
  2. Seems depressed and lonely.
  3. Is home without parents for long periods of time.
  4. Has few/no rules about phone use.
  5. Watches too many shows or plays video games that have sexual content.
  6. Does not understand the differences between love, lust and infatuation.
  7. Only, feels good about themselves when they are in a relationship.
  8. Hangs out or has friends that I do not know.
  9. Likes to take risks and thinks he/she is invincible.
  10. Seems to view sex as “just sex,” or as a recreational activity.
  11. Does not have personal or career goals for the future.
  12. Spends too much time on entertainment, games, internet, and on social media/networking sites.
  13. Already drinks alcohol, uses drugs and/or tobacco.
  14. Identifies with a group, pack, gang, or clique rather than with family or as a unique person.
  15. Has a computer, phone, or other mobile devices in their bedroom.
  16. Does not have a curfew or rules that must be followed.
  17. Goes to a school where students talk openly about sexual activities.
  18. Is so attached to their friends and/or social media that they are depressed without them/it.
  19. Does not see marriage and family in their future.
  20. Is crushed or deeply hurt if their peer group laughs or ridicules them about clothing, rules, etc.
  21. Seems desperate to have a girlfriend or boyfriend.
  22. Gives in to peer pressure easily.
  23. Thinks that everyone their age is having sex.
  24. Thinks that using contraception justifies having sex.
  25. Has electronic devices that lack pornography filters.
  26. Posts provocative pictures or sexual content (sexting) to the internet.
  27. Thinks that couples who are not having sex are old-fashioned or weird.
  28. Intends to have sex after graduation or to “get it over with” so that they can tell their friends.
  29. Thinks that oral sex and anal sex are safe.
  30. Believes that sex has no impact on emotions.
  31. Does not believe it is valuable to wait until marriage before having sex.
  32. Believes that “serious” dating relationships justify having sex.
  33. Talks about sex proving popularity or maturity or desirability.
  34. Cannot verbalize why abstinence is a healthy choice for himself/herself.
  35. Lack confidence in their ability to abstain.
  36. Thinks that sex is a good way to show a dating partner love.
  37. Believes that sexually transmitted diseases do not exist in his/her school or community.
  38. Has sexually active friends.
  39. Is only interested in dating someone older or younger.
  40. Prioritizes dating relationships over educational or household responsibilities.

 

What are Predictors of Sexual Activity?

Through more than twenty years of reviewing surveys of more than 650,000 students across the USA, Central America and Russia, Dr. Stan Weed of the Institute for Research and Evaluation has identified statistically significant predictors of whether a young person is likely to abstain or initiate sex.

If your teen exhibits any of the above statements, they may be more likely to initiate early sexual activity than someone who does not.

 It is important for parents to understand these Predictors of Sexual Activity and be able address them as they talk to their teen about sex and their intentions to abstain. While many predictors cannot be easily changed, these predictors are subject to your influence and if you are not doing the influencing, you may be assured that someone else – in school, through the media, or in your teen’s peer group – is!

 The Heritage Keepers® Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education program is designed around these scientifically derived Predictors of Sexual Activity. This means that every Certified Heritage Keepers® Educator has been trained to positively influence these Predictors in every lesson that they teach.

This is why the Heritage Keepers® program works to increase abstinence! It is also the ONLY Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education Curriculum listed by US Health and Human Services as an Evidence-based Teen Pregnancy Prevention Program!

 After one year, Heritage Keepers® students abstain at a rate 3 times that of non-program students!

In SC, Heritage Community Services conducts FREE workshops to introduce the program, provide resources, and inform participants about how they can be empowered to protect teens from risky behaviors. Each participant or couple receives a copy of our adult training manual entitled Sex, Lies and Hook Ups: A Parent’s Guide to Fighting Back

 Heritage Keepers staff have trained school districts, state health departments, and non-profits to provide their program nationally and internationally. Contact us today about the Heritage Keepers® program!

Sexual Rights…for Your Children?

 

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The Sexual Rights Cartels around the world have produced generations of so-called experts, educators, and elected-officials who believe that everyone has the right to sex with whoever they “need” to, regardless of age.

There are no boundaries for sexual exploitation.

The United Nations redefined “prostitution” to make the “profession” more respectable while ignoring how these women, and men, were forced into it.

At the UN, the politically correct phrases are: “trafficking,” “sex slavery,” “sex work,” and “sex workers.” This is Orwellian doublespeak…”

Employing the word “sex work” represents a prevailing point of view in which women are seen as having “agency,” and therefore can freely choose to be sex workers. The phrase “sex work” is an attempt to mainstream prostitution as just another form of work. Doing so utterly obliterates the fact that prostitutes are most often unwilling victims who suffer from a much higher rate of post-traumatic stress symptomatology than do combat veterans. It hides the fact that American Johns often want—and get—young children or certainly under-age children. Legally, a good deal of prostitution is pedophilia or legalized rape.

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Parents, your children are not safe! You cannot trust your schools, churches, elected officials, Health Departments, Social Service Agencies, or anyone else to protect your children. They have ALL failed. You are the only adults in your child’s life that will care enough to set boundaries and educate them on how to completely avoid the risky behaviors facing them.

Even if you failed to form a healthy family, you must now think about your child’s future. What will their family look like?

Find out how to teach your children about Healthy Family Formation, which includes the proven benefits of marriage and raising the next generation to be economically self-sufficient and emotionally healthy.

When parents finally wake up to the fact that sex is not just entertainment, but has biological and neurological implications for every individual and future generations, it may be too late.

Absolute social and economic chaos will be the norm, globally.

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Time to “Opt Out” of Sex Class?

Stop_SignMost sex ed in public schools has nothing to do with promoting  health. It does not promote abstinence from sex and it does not protect teens from STDs. Sex ed goes far beyond teaching the methods of contraception. In many cases, it is all about grooming immature students into a sexualized life-style, while their brains are developing.

When school starts, there will be a stack of forms and consents for parents to sign. There may be a passive consent form asking your permission to teach your child sex ed, without specifying the name of the program, content or intent. If you do not sign it, your child will be sent to sex class. Only if you tell them to “Opt Out” your child, will they be spared.

Parents (and taxpayers) need to call their school districts  and ask to view the entire contents of all sex education curricula being used. Make sure they give you the teacher’s manual, student workbooks, handouts, DVDs and posters.

Obviously, this will take time so you need to plan several hours, or do it as a team with each adult viewing different pieces of the curricula. Take notes. Write down page numbers and quotes from the pages. When you see something disturbing, get a partner to witness it and write it down, verbatim.

It is important for you to document what you see from the actual curricula, otherwise you will be accused of making it up.

One only has to see these programs and lessons for themselves, to understand that they are all about promoting sex, sexual rights, and increasing the profit margins of the sex and abortion industries.

The public schools are failing to teach our kids how to read, write, or understand math, science and history. Teachers often complain that they cannot teach students after they have had sex class. No wonder!

Students are being groomed for sex and dumbed down into sexual machines that cannot think for themselves. What better way to control the masses?

The following quotes are from Making Proud Choices! and should be a wake-up call for any reasonable parent or taxpayer. Making Proud Choices! teaches 11-13 year old middle school student how to make sex with condoms fun and pleasurable. It calls itself a “Safer-Sex Approach,” but the sexual foreplay they suggest would spread bodily fluids and STDs such as Syphilis, Herpes and HPV, which are transmitted skin to skin.

Making Proud Choices! does not teach reproduction, abstinence, or the benefits of marriage. It is all about promoting sex under the guise of condoms and STD prevention.

The following lesson is all about normalizing sex with and among minor children and encouraging tolerance towards those who want to have sex. Notice that the idea of “protected sex” is paramount. Abstinence is totally missing from this lesson.

Making Proud Choices!: Attitude statements about condom and contraception use for 6th Grade/Middle School (pg. 70)

1. Attitude: “It would be embarrassing to go to the drug store to get birth control.”

Answer: “(Even though it may be embarrassing, you have to work through it because a pregnancy can be more embarrassing.)”

 2. Attitude: “Using condoms would kill the mood and ruin sexual pleasure.”

Answer: “(Condoms can be fun and pleasurable if you know the skills to make them that way.)”

3. Attitude: “Girls who carry condoms are easy/slutty.”

Answer: “(Girls who carry condoms are smart, responsible, proud and safe.)”

4. Attitude: “Refusing to have sex if my partner will not use a condom is hard to do.”

Answer: “(Refusing unsafe sex is the proud responsible thing to do.)”

5.  Attitude: “It would be easy to discuss contraceptive methods and condom use with my boyfriend or girlfriend.

Answer: “(It is easy when your mind is made up and you know why you want to be safe.)”

Making Proud Choices!: “HOW TO MAKE CONDOMS FUN AND PLEASURABLE” 6th Grade & Middle School Activity B Procedure for Teachers (p.150)

Rational: “Helping participants see how they can make condom use fun and pleasurable for themselves and their partners encourages consistent use and a sense of pride and responsibility.”

Teachers are told to “Add the following ideas to the list if they [students] were not already mentioned by the participants.”

  • “Sex is more fun when condoms are used because…
  • You can use condoms as a method of foreplay.
  • You can think up sexual fantasy using condoms.
  • You can act sexy/sensual when putting condoms on.
  • You can hide one on your body and ask your partner to find it.
  • You can tease each other sexually while putting on the condom.
  • You can have fun putting one on our partner while pretending you are different people or in different situations.
  • You feel more relaxed and can really enjoy yourself.
  • Condoms make erections last longer.

Following are more Making Proud Choices! pages in the teacher manual:

Pg. 38-40 Teachers “norm” the classroom and get kids to agree not to talk about what happens in class when they leave.

Pg. 60  Abstinence is the same as safer sex.

Pg. 62 Pros about contraception, but no cons listed.

Pg. 66 Even for students who practice abstinence, they are told to use birth control as a back up.

Pg. 70, 85, 91 Instructions about fun, pleasurable sexual foreplay with condoms. This is beyond teaching “about” contraception and outside most state laws governing sex ed.

Pg. 73 Poster of STDs. HPV is missing.  Medically Inaccurate Info

Pg. 74, 8 & 10 Students are told that “anyone can get STDs.” Students who abstain will not get STDs.  Medically Inaccurate Info

Pg. 75 Condoms protect from STDs. Medically Inaccurate Info

Pg. 76-92  Condom skills classes to break down natural defenses about sex and condoms. Teaches about “kiddie condoms” for little penises.

Pg. 91 Students are warned not to drink alcohol or take drugs, but taught sexual foreplay.

Pg. 108 Green, Yellow and Red Light Behaviors. Some of the Green and Yellow light behaviors, which many teens will think they can handle, include: 

  • Having sex with a person who is having sex with other people
    • Oral sex on a guy with a condom
    • Anal sex with a condom
    • Mutual masturbation
    • Vaginal sex with a condom
    • Oral sex on a girl using a dental dam
    • Having sex with multiple partners and using a condom (group sex and/or serial partners)
    • Having sex with only one person (monogamous) [this normalizes serial monogamy]

This should get any parent or taxpayer started! There are many more pages throughout the curriculum to discover and expose. This means there is no way that schools can just not teach a lesson. It is polluted throughout.

These programs do not include anything that would teach your child to avoid risky behaviors, yet they are being used in schools, where Johnny can’t read, write, do math or understand basic science.

Even if your kids are grown, what about your grandchildren? What about your taxes spent to promote these programs.

What will you do? You are the last, but should be the first, defender of your children. You may still have the power to opt out your child from sex ed. Why not? If just 15 families in each school opted their children out of sex ed it would send a huge message to the school district.

If you feel it would embarrass your child to be outside the sex class, then you may be the one with the problem. Your child will be far more influenced by the content of these type classes than by going to the library or study hall.

You are the last defense for your children. If you don’t Parent Up for them now, no one else will.

Check out: Sex, Lies and Hook Ups: A Parent’s Guide for Fighting Back

Safe Sex Ed: Prevents Sexual Abuse and Pornography?

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In the USA and globally, there has been a noticeable shift in the propaganda promoting Safe Sex/Sexual Foreplay Education. It is moving away from typical pregnancy prevention and towards claiming that such education would prevent child sexual abuse and pornography addiction.

Really? Show me the research!

While it is true that prepubescent minors cannot get pregnant, they are becoming new targets for the Planned Parenthood/SIECUS sexualization agenda. Beginning at Kindergarten, 5 year old children are being taught about  consensual and non-consensual sexual activity.

AS IF ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY WITH OTHERS IS ACCEPTABLE!

There are many reasons that children are considered minors under the law. One, is to protect them from pedophiles, predators, and sexual exploitation.

Now, such promoters of perversion are pushing legislation that will lower the age of consent for sex and make pedophilia legal as an alternative life choice. Our children are becoming targets WITHOUT legal protection.

Normalizing sexual foreplay among, and with, children and encouraging sexual exploration, spontaneous sexual fun and pleasure, along with imagining sexual fantasies does not seem like a well thought out way to protect and prevent child sexual abuse or pornography.

Rather, it sounds like grooming kids for sex.

The Planned Parenthood and SIECUS Networks (including Obamacare) must be thrilled, as they anticipate a surge in business over the next decade. Getting kids hooked on sex at even younger ages will certainly increase the likelihood that they will get pregnant, thus increasing the demand for abortions and birth control.

Who cares about the STDs?! Who really even cares about the children?

Are they nothing more than sex toys?

Most parents are alarmed when they find out that their 11 year old prepubescent child has been exposed to instructions on how to pleasure each others genitals, regain an erection, find “little boy” condoms in the store, make condom use fun and pleasurable, and how to keep parents from knowing what is discussed in sex class. By “norming” the class on Day 1, students are “sworn” to secrecy under the guise of confidentiality and respect for others.

And, most parents are even more alarmed at the thought that their child might be sexually molested, assaulted, or exploited. The Penn State sexual abuse scandal exposed decades of sexual abuse that will haunt the victims for the rest of their lives.

Beware! The Planned Parenthood and SIECUS Networks are exploiting these parental fears to actually gain access to their children. After years of anti-bullying campaigns to increase tolerance for various sexual proclivities, they are now pushing their agenda forward by making consensual sex the norm for all ages and relationships.

This ideology has its roots in Alfred Kinsey and his sexology research on babies at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute. And, “Planned Parenthood’s former medical director, Dr. Mary Calderone, was also a director of [SIECUS] the Sex Information and Education Council of the United States, the sex-ed provider launched by the Kinsey Institute in 1964 with seed money provided by Playboy. And we wonder why our sex-ed classes are so graphic.”

Exposing children and teens to sexuality information, images, stimulation, and assault causes physical and emotional damage for a lifetime.

It is reprehensible, and should be criminal, that our government, who is in bed with the Planned Parenthood/SIECUS Networks, is funding programs that prey on children, under the guise of health or sex education or the so-called prevention of sexual abuse and pornography addiction.

The only solution is for parents, and the adults who really care about children, to become educated, opt out of safe sex classes, and stop funding them with their taxes.

Further readingSex, Lies and Hook Ups: A Parent’s Guide for Fighting Back! and Sex, Lies and Hook Ups: A Teen’s Guide for Fighting Back!