Real Sex Ed Debate: “Contraception” is Sexual Foreplay

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Stop_SignYear 2014 will usher in new Sex Ed Laws in many states, requiring that “contraception” be taught in middle and high school. But, is it “contraception” or sexual foreplay?

Most mandated Sex Ed today reads more like steamy sex therapy sessions than teen pregnancy and STD prevention education. Under the guise of “safe sex,” many curricula teach that as long as condoms are used, consensual sex is the “new standard” for sexual activity, not marriage.  

Sex Ed curricula, such as Making A Difference!, Making Proud Choices!, Be Proud! Be Responsible!, Safer Choices, Teen Outreach Program (TOP), Wise Guys! and others can be found on the Planned Parenthood and SIECUS websites. They have very little verbiage, if any, about the benefits of abstaining from sexual activity and do not mention marriage as the ideal context for sexual activity.

Consensual sex is the “new norm.”

These curricula teach students how to engage in “safe” sexual foreplay including oral sex and intercourse, how to experience the pleasures of sex, and about ways to eroticize sex, all while purportedly teaching condom skills to prevent STD transmission. 

Sex, and more sex, is the goal and “safety” is the Trojan Horse.

The problem is, sex outside of marriage can never be as safe as sex within a healthy, faithful marriage. This vital message is being censored from our teens.

The current Sex Ed debate is no longer about whether to teach Abstinence or Contraception. It is about whether to explain about methods of “contraception” or to teach “hands on” sexual foreplay skills under the guise of “contraception” education. 

Unlike Abstinence-until-Marriage education, so-called “Safer Sex” programs are not strictly regulated by the federal government. They are given free rein to teach anything they can get away with.

“Safer Sex” programs are designed to make teens feel “proud,” “responsible,” and more comfortable about having consensual sex as long as they use condoms or dental dams. But, are “Safe Sex” programs safe? Unfortunately, many STDs, such as HPV, Herpes, and Syphilis are transmitted outside of the “protection” of condoms and dental dams. And, since condoms cannot be used unless the male is sexually stimulated, it is reasonable to think that there is a lot of skin-to-skin (STD transmission) contact prior to using a condom or dental dam.

Do “Safe Sex” programs delay sex initiation, as they claim? Under the influence of sexual stimulation, it is counter intuitive to expect sex to be delayed and for condoms to be used correctly and consistently even by adults, much less impulsive teens.

The most respected researcher in the field of teen sexual activity is Stan Weed, PhD of the Institute for Research and Evaluation. Weed’s report on Teen Pregnancy Prevention programs in 2010 revealed that very few “Safe Sex” condom programs were effective at increasing abstinence or condom use for any length of time. In “Federally Funded Teen Pregnancy Prevention Programs: Not What They Claim to Be.”, Weed states that out of 28 programs approved in 2010,

“Only 2 TPP [Teen Pregnancy Prevention] programs demonstrated the ability to increase adolescents’ rate of consistent condom use for at least one year. Neither was a school-based program.”

Weed’s critique also calls out these TPP programs for their sexually explicit content, teaching “safe” alternative sexual behaviors (sexual foreplay), and that “Abstaining from sex is not a primary focus in the majority of TPP programs.”

Parents and elected officials need to study the Sex Ed Laws of their state, as well as all Sex Ed curricula approved under that Law. Afterwards, they may want to provide their own reading lessons for Legislators and School Board members.

In preparation, consider the following questions and decide whether instruction is being required or if, by default, “Safe(r) Sex” is allowed to slip in through the loopholes.

1.  Does your state’s Sex Ed Law include verbiage requiring the teaching of  “contraception” and/or “Safer Sex” for middle and high schools?

  • Does the Law define “contraception” or is “contraception” used broadly to include “birth control” hormones (Plan B, Emergency Contraception) and devices (Emergency IUDs) along with referrals to Planned Parenthood/Family Planning Clinics?
  • Does the Law define “Safe(r) Sex?”
  • Does the Law require that approved Sex Ed programs fulfill the Pregnancy Prevention Education and Reproductive Education requirements to be used in the schools? Programs like Making a Difference! and Making Proud Choices! do not fulfill all requirements of most state laws for Pregnancy Prevention or Reproductive Education, therefore other programs must be supplemented.

2. Does your Sex Ed Law include any verbiage requiring the teaching of sexual foreplay techniques including the use of dental dams for oral sex, eroticizing condom use with lubricants and detailed instructions for regaining erections? If not, is there any language to prevent such teaching?

3. Does your Sex Ed Law include any verbiage requiring teachers to use visual imagery or sexual fantasies to help students pretend they are somewhere else, or the opposite gender, or with someone else while engaging in sexual activity? Wouldn’t this require a license to practice psychotherapy in the classroom?

4. Does your Sex Ed Law require that abstinence until marriage be taught as the standard for all school age students? Does it loosely define abstinence, which allows “safe sex” curricula to claim that they are  abstinence-based or abstinence-first? If marriage is omitted as a cultural norm from the Law and also from the approved Sex Ed curricula, then there are no boundaries for sexual activity.

5. Who is in charge of making sure that all approved Sex Ed curricula comply with the state Sex Ed Law? Unaccountable bureaucrats?

6. Are there any approved Sex Ed curricula that have “Safe(r) Sex” in their title, on their cover, or part of their content? THIS IS A RED FLAG!

7. Are all approved Sex Ed curricula used in the schools the original evidence-based version evaluated for program effectiveness and listed on the US HHS website? Or, are they “adaptations” of the approved curricula, in order to gain approval? 

8. What are the behavioral outcomes for each approved Sex Ed curriculum used in your state?

  • Is each approved Sex Ed curriculum listed on the US HHS website as being proven effective and evidence-based for Teen Pregnancy Prevention?
    • If the curriculum is an abstinence-until-marriage program, does it significantly increase abstinent behaviors among participants, compared with non-program participants, as measured a year after the program?
    • If the curriculum is an abstinence-based “safer sex” program, does it significantly increase abstinent behaviors among participants, compared with non-program participants, as measured a year after the program?
    • If the curriculum is a “Safe Sex” condom program, does it significantly increase correct and consistent condom use for sexually active students, compared with sexually active non-program participants, as measured a year after the program?

9. Who trains the educators to teach approved Sex Ed curricula in your state?

10. Are there any abstinence-until-marriage curricula approved in your state/district that are listed on the US HHS website as being proven effective and evidence-based for Teen Pregnancy Prevention? If not, why not?

Getting answers to all of these questions will provide a much clearer picture of the sexual climate in your school, school district and state. Our schools should be promoting behaviors that are conducive to learning and achieving academic success. If this is not the case, then much work needs to be done quickly to protect children from sexual influences that can derail their futures.

Get busy!

Role of Government: Teaching Sexual Foreplay?

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Next month, the Statesville-Iredell School Board in Statesville, North Carolina will decide whether Making Proud Choices!, a Safer Sex, sexual foreplay curriculum, that targets 11-13 year old minors, will be used for all 9th graders in their schools.

School Board member, Bryan Shoemaker, has taken the time to review Making Proud Choices! and is disturbed by its content. In an interview with Charlotte, NC WSOCTV, he expressed his concerns that Making Proud Choices! goes too far when teaching kids about sex.

Shoemaker says that Making Proud Choices! is about “using different types of lubricants; a lot of what they are talking about are methods of foreplay which are totally unacceptable in the 9th grade.”

Read more about Making Proud Choices! here…

Making Proud Choices! has been taught in Iredell County over the past few years for after-school programs thanks to a $4 million grant from the federal government. Each participating child is given $100 for completing the program. As you would imagine, attendance has been high and proponents brag about its success in driving down pregnancy rates for teens. But, are they playing with the data?

It is common for supporters of safe sex education (the Planned Parenthood/SIECUS Network) to lump all of the pregnancy data for teens into a broad 13-19 year age group. However, this manipulates the data, and the public, by claiming that teen pregnancy rates are much higher for younger teens than is fact.

If one is interested in the impact of middle and high school sex education on teen pregnancy rates, then using data from 15-17 year old teens is more appropriate and accurate. Research shows that teen pregnancy rates increase dramatically beginning at 18 and 19. After all, once a teen is emancipated at age 18, they are no longer the legal responsibility of school districts, or their parents.

If the rates of teen pregnancy are already dropping statewide and nationwide, then success based on a single program cannot be assumed. In the case of 15-17 year old teens in Iredell County and North Carolina, the data, indicates that teen pregnancies declined at the same rate as the state’s during the period 2000-2012. According to the data, the pregnancy rates in Iredell County were at its lowest in 2010, and it appears that 15-17 year old teen pregnancies in the county actually increased to the state level in 2012. In summary, teen pregnancy rates for 15-17 year old teens have not decreased more in Iredell County vs. NC and there has been no reliable research to show that Making Proud Choices! or any other single program is responsible for the impact.

As reported, Iredell-Statesville School District received $4 million for the Making Proud Choices! program to be taught in after-school programs. Now that the funding is running out they are pushing to expand the program into all of the 9th grade classes. Is the federal government buying their way into school districts by funding programs like Making Proud Choices!?

Why is the government using taxpayer money and taxpayer infrastructure to teach students sexual foreplay techniques in public schools?

While most states require that methods of contraception be taught in high school, it is outside the scope of most, if not all state laws, to teach students how to pleasure each other, regardless of age.

Do Legislators ever read the curricula they are voting to mandate in our schools?

The role of school districts is to teach students how to learn, how to be proficient in core subject matter, and how to become self-sufficient, productive members of society so that they can establish future healthy families that will also do the same. Teaching sexual foreplay techniques is not a core mission of our education system. Or is it?

Parents need to demand that schools teach only those subjects that further their child’s academic achievements. And, legislators and other elected officials need to actually read the Safe Sex curricula being used or promoted in their states and school districts.

It only takes a few good people to stop the Planned Parenthood/SIECUS Network in a school district. Just expose them by reading – verbatim – what they are teaching our children.

Statesville, NC: Making Poor Choices?

MPC CurriculumParents, if you have children enrolled in the 9th grade in Statesville-Iredell School District (NC), you need to know that your child (a minor) is targeted with one of the worst Safer Sex/Sexual Foreplay curricula in the nation.

Making Proud Choices!, A Safer-Sex Approach to Teen Pregnancy, STD, & HIV Prevention, is also listed on the Planned Parenthood Sex Education website and is part of the SIECUS agenda to change America one school district at a time.

Making Proud Choices! is on the fast track for approval in your school district either on January 6th or 13th , 2014. This sexually explicit curriculum was tabled by the Board early this month due to questions and concerns. At that time, the Board requested copies of the curriculum and any videos or DVDs that go with it.

To date, none of the School Board members have received copies of anything, yet they are expected to approve Making Proud Choices! next month and then find out what is in it. We have heard of this strategy before: “We have to pass the bill, so that you can find out what is in it.”

Unless you, the parents, say NO! to Making Proud Choices! on January 6th, your child will learn how to:

  • make condoms fun and pleasurable,
  • use condoms as a method of foreplay,
  • act sexy/sensual when putting condoms on,
  • hide condoms on your body and ask your partner to find it,
  • tease each other sexually while putting on a condom,
  • have fun putting one on your partner, while pretending you are different people or in different situations,
  • feel more relaxed and really enjoy yourself, and
  • use condoms to make erections last longer!

This list is from page 150 of Making Proud Choices! in a module entitled “How to Make Condoms Fun and Pleasurable.” While Making Proud Choices! is used as contraception education, in reality it goes beyond contraception instruction to teach minors how to have fun and pleasurable sex so that they will use condoms.

Making Proud Choices is exactly what it says it is, “A Safer-Sex Approach to Teen Pregnancy, STD & HIV Prevention.” It doesn’t even claim to teach middle school students how to abstain from sex, although “abstinence” is mentioned beginning on page 60 and afterwards as a disclaimer in some of the lessons.

To garner support for Making Proud Choices! proponents across the nation have made many impossible promises. (Kinda like the passing of Obamacare.) They promised that they would make the primary focus “abstinence” and the secondary focus “contraception.” There are some real problems with those promises:

  1. They cannot and will not take a sexual foreplay program, and turn it into an “abstinence focused” program? This is a ruse.
  2. The Planned Parenthood Network, which includes SIECUS and the ACLU, wants you to focus on the Abstinence vs. Contraception debate, rather than the Contraception vs. Sexual Foreplay content they are teaching your child.
  3. North Carolina is going in the wrong direction. CDC data indicates that almost 75% of minors nationally have not had sex, so why are we teaching sexual foreplay to 100% of all minors in school districts when they should be focused on academics, sports and being a kid?
  4. Reproductive Health is not taught in this curriculum. This is required under NC Law. Do they not want kids to know about when and where conception takes place?
  5. NC Law requires that abstinence from sexual activity outside of marriage be taught as the expected standard, but Making Proud Choices does not recognize marriage, therefore it cannot teach that marriage is the optimal context for sexual activity.
  6. Family life Education is barely discussed except in the context of how getting pregnancy would affect the parent.
  7. Under Pregnancy Prevention Education, the most effective means of preventing pregnancy, abstinence, is not even mentioned until page 60 as the very last choice. Benefits of condom use are explained but not the risks.
  8. STDs: MPC covers HIV/AIDs but does not promote abstinence as the best strategy to prevent HIV/AIDS. Other STDs such as HPV, Herpes, that are transmitted skin to skin, outside of the area a condom would cover, are barely discussed. HPV is missing from a poster listing STDs.
  9. Students are encouraged to “make proud choices” but discouraged from making “moral choices.”
  10. While NC Law allows for teaching about contraception, it does not appear to allow for teaching pleasurable and fun Safe Sex or Sexual Foreplay in the schools.

Based on the evaluations of Making Proud Choices! listed on the US HHS website, it is a questionable choice for the students of Iredell County, NC. Making Proud Choices! has only been evaluated for community and after school programs, not for school settings – yet it is being used in public schools across the nation! High risk teens that were part of the community and after school programs and already having sex used condoms more often, but virgin teens that had sex after participating in the program, did not use condoms.

How safe is that? I thought that was the whole idea behind teaching ALL children about “safe sex”! So they would be prepared in the heat of the moment!

So, if minors cannot legally consent to sex, why are we allowing US Health and Human Services, Planned Parenthood Zealots and some in the school district to exploit and seduce kids into having sex?

The Planned Parenthood Network will not stop pushing sexual foreplay education in your schools unless you, the parents and taxpayers, demand the best sexual health programs for their children.