“If it were happening, I would know about it!” they say.
How would they know?
Who would tell them?
Parents should take responsibility for finding out everything there is to know about the Sex Ed programs in their child’s school. Unless parents spend at least 10 hours reviewing the entire curriculum, research the effectiveness of the program, and sit in on every sex class, they will not fully know the content.
Rather, many parents assume, wrongly, that their school’s Sex Ed classes will teach their children about reproduction, the consequences of sex, and their contraceptive choices for future family planning. Most Sex Ed programs are teaching much, much more than they imagine and leaving out the healthiest option for sexual activity.
Making Proud Choices! is a popular Sex Ed program sweeping the nation. Parents should be very concerned if they have children in public middle schools. This program is anything but Comprehensive because it fails to emphasize the benefits of abstinence and marriage, and encourages sexual activity.
The first class of Making Proud Choices! sets the stage for the rest of the course. Sex teachers facilitate behavioral change with a strategy called Shaping, beginning with our most vulnerable minors. The students are engaged in a fun brainstorming session where they set rules and guidelines that everyone must adhere to. Rules such as showing respect for others opinions, no name-calling, and confidentiality. (pg. 38, 39)
Confidentiality is a major rule or guideline that the teacher makes sure is on the list. In order for everyone to feel comfortable sharing personal information during the activities, they must agree:
“We will not talk about any personal information we hear in this group with people outside the group.” (pg. 38)
After the teachers have conducted this activity, they praise the class by saying:
“I am excited and feel that we can work well together and respect each other by following our Group Rules. I look forward to working with this group.” (pg. 39)
As a parent, how does it make you feel to know that the sex teacher is “working with your child?”
This confidentiality requirement is totally inappropriate for minors and sets up barriers between students and their parent or guardian.This is why parents do not know what is being taught! Most minors will not tell their parents what happens in sex class, even if they feel uncomfortable or “weirded out.” They don’t want to be “the one” that breaks the code of silence that the entire class (i.e., the sex teacher) has established.
Other rules are used to control independent thinking students. For example, if a student is brave enough to speak against any content, teen sex, and/or in support of abstinence, they are isolated and shunned until they conform to the group’s rules. (Read: Saul Alinsky’s Rules for Radicals.)
And, if a student resists participating in an activity they are “forced” to be the first to role play or read aloud scripted text. (pg. 260-261)
Parents, your children are being groomed for sex!
Sex Ed over the past 2 decades is not about educating kids about reproduction, or emphasizing abstinence, and it has gone far beyond teaching teens about condoms and contraception. It is primarily about seeking sexual pleasures and fun ways to use condoms.
A careful review of Making Proud Choices!, which is being mandated by school districts, reveals that most of the emphasis is on teaching kids as young as 11, how to engage in sexual foreplay as a substitute for intercourse. These minors are also given the “OK” and taught about oral sex using dental dams and flavored lubricants. (Pg. 96, 108, 266)
And, minors are taught how to have pleasurable sex with various brands of condoms to entice them to use them for protection. They are given a list of brands available, such as lubricated, ribbed, flavored, and even the best brand to use for a smaller penis called, Hot Shot. (pg. 88)
Hormonal contraception is primarily back up for when the stimulated couple’s brains shut down and they cannot remember the 10 steps to correctly use a condom, if at all. What if your daughter has not even gone through puberty? Should she be encouraged to take the pill? (pg. 149, 150)
In other words, teen sex is fine as long as it is protected sex.
Unprotected sex is a No! No!
Making Proud Choices! does not teach reproduction, emphasize abstinence, or mention marriage, therefore it is not a Comprehensive program. It is only a “Safer-Sex Approach to Teen Pregnancy, STDs & HIV Prevention,” except… that it is not safe and fails to prevent many pregnancies, STDs & HIV.
Research on Making Proud Choices! has shown that it does not delay sex. Plus, sexually inexperienced students, virgins, are less likely to use condoms when they do have sex. While sexually experienced minors do use condoms more often, the correct and consistent use was not measured. Sexually inexperienced students, virgins, are less likely to use condoms when they do have sex. (See evaluation on HHS website.) (See also A Lesson from Middle School Sex Class)
Valuable information is censored from our students throughout their middle and high school years. Unless they also receive a separate, proven effective, evidence-based abstinence education program, many of them will grow up not knowing about other realistic options regarding sexual behavior. Many will not know, until it is too late, that credible research has proven there are numerous benefits physically, emotionally, academically, and financially if they choose to abstain from sex at least until they graduate from high school.
Better yet, until marriage.