A lesson from middle school “Safe Sex” class

Making Condoms Fun In most school districts across the nation, there are Planned Parenthood-type Sex Education programs being offered to middle school students. We are talking about 12 year old minors, who cannot legally consent to sex.

Who is protecting them? Isn’t that the adult’s responsibility?

Making Proud Choices is just one of many programs, but this one page from their curricula, given to me by a concerned parent, depicts some of the sexually explicit instruction that your pubescent son or daughter will be exposed to during the next school year.

Are you going to opt your child out of this type of sex ed, or cave to adult peer pressure and the “my school administrators know what’s best for my child” mentality?

What will you do when all those papers come home from school for you to sign? Better find out what kind of sex ed is in your child’s school.

Making Proud Choices, touted as an “abstinence and safer sex risk-reduction intervention for HIV prevention,” is listed on the Planned Parenthood site under curricula. The research on Making Proud Choices reveals that it has only been tested in after-school programs, and community-based settings with inner-city African American teens (11-13), not in public middle schools,. Yet, it is being generalized to the middle school population.

So, what does the research reveal about this so-called abstinence program?

Three, six and twelve months after the program: Sexually experienced youth (6th and 7th graders) were less likely to have unprotected sex. (This means that sexually active youth were more likely to use condoms, but we do not know if condom use was consistent or correct.) And, there was no impact on overall rates or frequency of intercourse.

For sexually inexperienced youth (virgins), there was no significant impact on their use of condoms, if they decided to have intercourse.

So, teens that were already having sex used condoms more often, but virgin teens who had sex after the program, did not use condoms. How safe is that? I thought that was the whole idea behind teaching ALL children about “safe sex”! So they would be prepared in the heat of the moment!

What is so bad about Making Proud Choices? Look at the lesson page!

Do you want your child’s sex teacher “helping participants see how they can make condom use fun and pleasurable for themselves and their partners [so that they are] encouraging consistent use and a sense of pride and responsibility?”   Does this match up with their researched outcomes?

Do you want your child’s sex teacher using “newsprint entitled, Sex is More Fun When Condoms are Used Because…?”  If it’s in the news, it must be true. Right?

Do you want your child to participate with their classmates in a brainstorming session about sex, condoms and pleasure? What if the session makes them feel uncomfortable? Or, what if it makes them eager to become sexually active the first chance they get?

If the students do not shout out all the reasons that using condoms makes sex fun, do you want your child’s sex teacher adding to the list the following ideas?

“Sex is more fun when condoms are used because…

  • You can use condoms as a method of foreplay.
  • You can think up a sexual fantasy using condoms.
  • You can act sexy/sensual when putting condoms on.
  • You can hide one on your body and ask your partner to find it.
  • You can tease each other sexually while putting on the condom.
  • You can have fun putting one on your partner, while pretending you are different people or in different situations.
  • You feel more relaxed and can really enjoy yourself.
  • Condoms make erections last longer.

Notice, that no where on this page is abstinence or the consequences of sex, like STDs and pregnancy, mentioned. The whole idea is fun and pleasure. Is this age appropriate?

Many states have already passed Comprehensive Health Education Laws that make this type of Sex Ed mandatory for all students. If parents do not opt-out their child, they will automatically be in the class. In some states, parents already have no choice. Other states’ Legislators are under pressure from the Planned Parenthood Network (Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, SIECUS, Advocates for Youth, ACLU, State Planned Parenthood Chapters and the New Morning Foundation) to make this type of Sex Ed mandatory. They are also trying to make it illegal for a separate proven-effective and evidence-based Abstinence Education Program, such as Heritage Keepers, to be taught in the public schools.

Parents, find out what your child’s school is teaching in sex class, review the curricula, sit in on the classes, and talk to the sex teacher. If it is offensive to you and your family, expose it, stand against it, and invite authentic abstinence education programs into your child’s school.

You’re the parent. It’s your responsibility to protect children from sexual exploitation.

No one else will.

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